DIVORCE: ARE THERE NO OTHER OPTIONS
Divorce is a French word meaning separation, the dictionary definition states hat it is a legal dissolution of the bond of marriage between husband and wife after which both of them are free to marry again. Why would a married couple want to divorce, is it that there is no other ways of settling the problem that one has to separate with someone he has sworn to love and protect till death do them part, the answer is that people do not take their time to analyse the situation carefully before taking such drastic decision that would not only affect his/her life but that of other persons who are their relatives.
The genesis of divorce starts with the period of courtship, people tends to over look some things during courtship and conclude that things would get better when they get married, but the reverse is the case. Marriage is an institution that has its own rules and cherished by man, I do not want to say that it is instituted by God because there are people who do not believe in God so I will play down the religious angle to the marriage institution. Whether we like it or not marriage is a union between two people, in time past one can say that it is a union between a male and female, but in recent times the same cannot be said, we have read of the marriage of male to male and other wise.
In marriage both parities are suppose to be one logical this means to say that they have agreed to share everything in their lives in common, there should be no secret among them and one can act on behalf of the other, responsibility should be a joint affair and most importantly they should be comparable and are convicted that they can live together. In planning marriage fantasy, illusion and compromise should not be there before the marriage one should be real and down to earth, we should try and kill our emotions and awaken our reasoning so that we can survive and succeed in our marriage.
The truth is before marriage we do not need emotions other wise we will be miss lead, all we need at this point in time is rationality one should scrutinize every actions of his companion and access it if he can put up with it. While in marriage we do not need rationality but emotions, this is the time we compromise every things just to make the marriage work. Given this fact why then do we still seek for divorce, is it the only way out, lets find out.
Divorce is not a solution to marriage problem mostly if there is a child in the marriage, it is a coward way of addressing the problem of marriage problem. When a marriage is seen not to be working by both couples I strongly recommend that the couples should first have a talk on gray areas of the marriage, if they are unable to reach a compromise both parties should invite someone whom the very much respect to have a second talk together, if it still does not work they should go no separate apartment for a time but continued to exist as man and wife and I if it still does not solve the problem they should come together and co-exist under one roof living with their problems. In marriage there is no break up it is an ever lasting union.