For Engaged and Newly Married Couples Can two walk very far together unless they agree on where
they going and how to get there?
The Feelings of Love: Guarding your Treasure
As newly weds and
engaged couple, you undoubtedly together because the feeling of love draw you together in an almost irresistable fashion. Although, nowadays, few people are in the business of arranging marriages, most of us marry because of love. To love and be loved is one of the most wonderful feelings in life, its a greatest pleasure in marriage. But how can we maintain these wonderful feelings or treasure for the next fifty years or more?
Tha ABCs of forever: Living on the Facts of Love Belonging love -the first sparks in a
relationship, and represents all that is happy and exciting and comforting about loving and being loved.
Absolute love - Marriage should be grounded first on God's love or Agape love which means perfect love! Marriage is not just all about living on emotions or the feelings of love but it is also living on the Facts of love.
We have, then two kinds of love that
merge into one to bless our life together!
Commitment to Marriage
One of our problems is that marriage today is taken so lightly! Only through
commitment to the absolute permanence of marriange , a commitment made by both partners, can marriage become sure guardian of love. If we have made this once and for all time commitment , the structure of marriage will preserve the love and we will be prepared for those difficult times when the marriage will be tested.
Absolute love+
Belonging love+
Commitment to Marriage=
a Forever Relationship FAITHFULNESS
The first Essential
Think about it. What one quality do you believe will contribute most to the continuing development of love and growth in your marriage?
FORGIVENESS
The second essential
In marriage,we will be surprised how frequently we need to forgive and be forgiven. Choose with your free will to forgive. Remember the person's sins no more, never name it to the person, or to others or to yourself again and trust God to allow you to forget and renew your mind with new attittudes.
Communicating: Your lifeline in Marriage
Communication is one of the extraordinary delights of marriage, when its working. Call it the
lifeline of the love-filled marriage --the means by which indespensable supplies are transported from the husband to wife, and from the wife to husband. In 1982 survey, 400 psychiatrists were asked why marriages fail, they gave poor communication as the common cause.
The Door Marked Private:
Secrets Sexual Fulfillment
God designed sex for marriage. When you feel an overwhelming sexual desire for each other, you can lock out the rest of the world without guilt or shame and express your love physically in total freedom. That's the wonder of marriage! Real love causes us to long to be closed to the beloved as possible.
The ABCs of Never:
Warning Signals
You've read the ABCs of forever, here's another set of ABCs, but these form the language of loss, not love: loss of happines,loss of peace, loss of all good things you hoped for to get from your marriage.
Adultery,
Anger
Bitterness
Change,
Conflict
Debt,
Disloyalty
Ego trips
Failure to Communicate
Guilt trips
Habits
Impatience,
Indifference,
Inequality,
Insensitivity
Jealousy
"Keeping House" Controversy
Lack of Intimacy
Messiness
Nagging
Out-of-control Children
Parental Pressures,
Pride, Procrastination
Quick Replies- sin of the tounge which come from speaking before you think
Rejection, Sexual
Selfishness,
Self pity,
Spiritual Indefference
Televisions
Ultimatums
Violence
Witholding Affection
Xhaustion
Yelling and other annoying habits
Zzz'z- boredome with your partner,your marriage or your life in general
How to Love Your Wife:
The Husband's handbook •Love her with a responsible love. Love your wife by taking responsibility for her.
•Love her with understanding and honor. (1.) understands her personally (2.) appreciates her inestimable value (3.) recognizes her positon in God's sight.
•Love her constructively. Love is always doing the best for the object of one's love.
•Love her by
cherishing her.
•Love her romantically. Your wife has a deep need to be loved romantically.
•Love her realistically. Your wife needs to be loved realistically as well as romantically. If she thinks you have idealized her, she will be afraid of disappointing you.
•Love her Sacrificially. You will love your wife sacrificially when her happiness and well being are more important to you than your own.
How to Love your Husband:
The wife's handbook
If the husband's responsibility can be summarized in one phrase: Love your wife! Your calling as a wife can also be summed up in a few words:
Respond to your husband! Love your husband the way he loves you!
"FOREVER"
He has made everything beautiful in His time.... Ecclesiastes 3:11a Amplified
When as lovers, we say "forever", we mean that we choose to be together "for time without end". And yet we realized that time must end for every living thing. What happens then? Does this mean the end of our love and oneness we've shared? Will we never be together again? Or, if we meet in heaven, will it be only in passing? Will we be separate again, the process working backward: one becoming two?
Its a good idea to confront these questions early in your marriage, because the conclusions you reach will affect the way you live. We encourage you to develop an eternal perspective of love and marriage based on the truth, from the word of God. Entrust everything to the Lord Jesus Christ, praising and loving Him together, putting Him in the center of your relationship. Then, Enjoy and look forward to being together "forever"!