Marriage is a social arrangement to allow
woman and man to live
together; a social acceptance and conformity to maintain
sexual relation for reproduction. Social purpose of marriage is to regulate
sexual relation between man and woman. This system of sexual behavior
differentiates human from other species, builds sexual connection more
respectable and meaningful to maintain discipline in the society. Each
society has different systems of marriage in relation to its culture,
yet, the objective of all is to recognize sexual conduct of partners
living together. Sexual activity is the foundation of marriage and
fulfillment is the tool for constant relation. Sexual craving is the
attraction that drags to togetherness. Under the social system of
marriage, couples achieve identity and highest respect in the society
that protects their relation.For nature sexual activity may be
procreation but for human it is sexual craving, leads to seek partner
for the fulfillment and marriage is the social solution. Society
disallows sexual relation before marriage or extra marital affairs,
reason behind this if approved there would be no difference between
human and other species. Human too would act as animals for seeking
partner. For animals may not be dangerous as their sexual periods are
in long intervals, on the other hand human have short and frequent
could lead to violent atmosphere. Social interference is to arrest such
unwanted activities to store rights and peace.Marriage is
portrayed as religious and fortunate that people wait anxiously for
this moment to enter married life. Celebrations and custom rituals
signify the identity of being Wife / Husband and togetherness. Real
life begins for both individuals when they need to share personality
and sensual feelings. Sex rules in the beginning of married life for
openness and understanding each other. Sex is the instrument that
connects both to represent as one to make family, family becomes a
fraction of the society. Sexual contentment is essential for first
stage to retain married life intact. After some times of marriage
sexual desire becomes part of normal routine. First stage of married
life is sensitive; each partner''s endeavor is to influence own approach
to create self environment in the home. This is psychological war to
create own dominance, weaker one has to surrender. Man surrenders when
he is economically, physically and emotionally weak.
Women are more
sensible, understand social pressure on women as each religion
prescribes women''s role as submissive. Also as I feel man is not as
keen as woman to bind self in the family. It is woman''s attempt; man
sticks in the family. Woman''s desire of own family is for
protection/security of own and children. Woman needs freedom but with
protection and security, to an
adult woman her own family is her
security. Keeping "family" in the mind she sacrifices the dominance.
Without woman there is no family so woman is the pillar of the family
structure. In modern world woman''s rights have awakened her to educate
self and economic independence. Has revolutionized the social thinking
about woman, she is now more independent and self esteemed resulted
many changes of married life. Both men and women have to compromise for
stable family. Old system of marriage is not practical any more, both
man and woman need to be familiar with each other before marriage, so
can understand the personality and history can help to advance.
Solutions become easier to rectify weaker points in order to consecrate
family value.? Sincerity of both the partners builds confidence in them to last relation.?
In many a cases disappointment takes place when desire exists for
unreachable in any form. "Adore what you have and what is within reach".? Sincerity of both the partners builds confidence in them to last relation.?
Sexual satisfaction is enticement to keep relation so not to hesitate.
Satisfy partner r painless/ non hurting manner.? Many
marital disputes are due to past sexual relations that are kept secret.
When exposed becomes matter of life and death. Revelation in the
beginning avoids misunderstanding.? Compromising own ego for positive reasons builds smoothness.Second
stage of marriage is the outcome of sexual activities; a birth of new
member of the family. New member draws all the attentions of family
life and first stage of life becomes memories. Wife and Husband
experience own image in the child that incites them to care more than
self. Child''s biological appearance attracts adults to submit selves
for compassion towards child is the natural instinct for safe growth.
Responsibility towards growth of the new born becomes important
activity. Woman''s sexual interest weakens for limited period, is
natural law to pay attention for best breast feeding. Women can not
avoid breast feeding as pressure builds up in breast that has to be
released, relief she gets from release is pleasure for her. This
natural law is to feed the child perfectly. As a father becomes more
responsible towards family and child so involves more into the family
affairs. His submission to the situation is to protect child from any
unwanted troublesome. Second stage defines father as protector and
mother as producer of future generation of own identity. Sexual
activity becomes second to child''s growth, especially woman who works
heavily for child''s growth. However, sexual desire is such a greed that
never eliminates until reaches unsuitable age, is to add members in the
family. So the second stage of marriage is giving birth and taking care
of family to grow. Contribution of their role steps further towards
more members and their health. Woman''s role is important as she needs
to care children and diverts her attention from husband to child and
house but if she goes to office her life becomes chaotic. Overburdened
lady weakens her health and sexual desire, irritation and depression
builds up due to weakness and intense involvement. Man on the other
hand finds self in little anxiety as the approach/response is not as
before. More necessities and demands of family load him if he is
economically weak. On the whole life of both wife and husband is not as
easy as before. The egoism and self-esteem overpowers them when feel
hurt, leads to arguments. An argument is the first stage of worsening
family. In a good family both realize the situation and accommodate for
smooth run. Normally, this situation prompts to find ways to criticize
each other makes uneasy life. The test of constructive married life
begins; most educated and able people succeed this test to step towards
third stage of married life, on the other hand uneducated or
self-centered people face this situation as hard test and many of them
fail. Those fail break up and search for new beginning or search for
extra affair. Good and bad relation of wife and husband influences
children too as they experience by observing. The relation becomes
doubtful to them mom and pop becomes less relevant especially during
puberty. This is what we observe in divorced or violent families,
children too become violent and depressed. Second stage is also very
difficult for egoistical issue-less couple, feeling of partner as
burden or loneliness drives to extra marital affairs.
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