PC (pubococcygeous) Muscle Contraction
This is simply squeezing your pelvic floor muscles, around the
scrotum,
penis and anus as you feel
ejaculation approaching. An easy way to
practice this is to interrupt your urine stream when you are going to
the bathroom.Perineum Pressure
Pressing on the perineum, a spot midway between your scrotum and your
anus, will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches through
to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and expands
during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid. Ask your partner
to apply this loving pressure for you.Testes Tug
When a man nears orgasm his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You
can delay ejaculation by gently pulling your testes down and away from
your body. Your partner can also do this for you.Penis Tip Squeeze
Squeezing your penis just below the head or glans can help to stop
oncoming ejaculation. It necessitates withdrawing completely from your
partner during intercourse, but is an excellent way to begin practice
on your own with masturbation.Passion Pump
This technique, which combines squeezing the PC muscles, rolling your
eyes upward, touching your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and
visualizing your sexual energy flowing up through your body while you
practice controlled deep breathing is one of the most effective ways of
delaying ejaculation. It''s a Taoist sexual kung fu technique that has
the added benefit of helping you circulate your sexual energy through
your body rather than having it remain hot and heavy in your genital
region.Special Tip
It is easier to delay ejaculation by focusing on moving your sex energy
through your body rather than focusing on not ejaculating. Stopping
movement, relaxing a little and breathing deeply and slowly will all
aid with this practice.The Importance of the Prostate Gland
When you practice delaying ejaculation it is very important to massage
the prostate gland, so that it doesn''t become sore. You can do this by
pressing on the perineum. The prostate can be felt as a bumpy walnut
shape beneath your fingers. Especially delightful is massaging in
circular motions, first clockwise and then counterclockwise, with a
piece of folded silk on the perineum spot.Thrusting Technique
A superb thrusting technique that brings great pleasure to a woman and
helps a man to last is a combination of deep and shallow
thrusts. By
shallow thrusts we mean your penis only enters 11/2 to 2 inches inside
your partner. These first couple of inches are the most sensitive part
of a woman''s vagina. Deep thrusts mean your penis enters as fully as
you can.In
this technique you combine a series of nine fairly quick shallow
thrusts with one slow deep one. The shallow thrusts stimulate your
partner''s most sensitive vaginal tissues and at the same time create a
vacuum effect that makes her ache for the deep thrust to come. And
because most of your thrusts are shallow ones, exciting only the first
few inches of your penis, you''re able to rock on for much longer!Mind over Muscle
Practicing squeezing your PC muscles will enable you to gradually
become so familiar with your genitals, that you will be able to discern
each separate muscle group and contract/relax them at will. At first
you will tighten your genitals and everything will contract at once.
Later you will be able to contract your anal muscles without moving
your penis or scrotum, or pull up your scrotum while your anus and
penis remain relaxed, or bob your penis up and down while nothing else
moves. Eventually just a thought will relax everything, especially your
smooth genital muscles, sending your hot sexual energy shooting through
your body, not out the end of your penis, but instead into your partner
through eye contact, intercourse, or touching.Smooth
muscles are internal muscles over which you normally have no conscious
control. You may not have been aware that you have smooth musclere muscles like your heart muscle, the muscles that push your food
through your digestive tract and the muscles that push the sperm and
semen out the end of your penis. Becoming aware of your smooth muscles
and eventually gaining enough mastery to be able to consciously keep
them relaxed will enable blood to flow into the penis, maintaining an
erection almost indefinitely - certainly long enough to satisfy the
most demanding partner, through and through. Gaining control over the
smooth muscles in your genitals is the key to maintaining your peak
sexual arousal for long periods of time -- even long enough to
experience whole body orgasms, rather than simply genital orgasms. In a
whole body orgasm your entire body becomes an exquisite erogenous zone,
much like your genitals always are. You can actually reach orgasm when
your lover is rubbing your chest, or sucking on your toes and fingers,
or nibbling your ears and throat. The magical key to opening the
doorway into multiple whole body orgasms is relaxation of your smooth
muscles, no matter how aroused, excited, or turned on you are.Train
your mind to think of something other than ejaculation. Thinking "I
don''t want to ejaculate" is still thinking about ejaculation. You must
have something else to focus your attention. We don''t recommend
reciting sports stats or in any way diverting your attention from
lovemaking. It is essential that you be fully present from moment to
moment. But instead of thinking about ejaculation, or worrying about
ejaculating too quickly, we suggest you think about pleasing your
partner. Learn to take pleasure for yourself in the pleasing of your
partner. Notice how she reacts when your tongue is exploring around her
clitoris, but also notice how her clitoris feels on your tongue. Notice
how she enjoys when you suck on her nipples, but also notice how her
breasts feel pressed against your face. Notice how she moans when you
gently run your fingers up the inside of her thighs, but also notice
how her skin feels so soft and warm against your fingers. With your
attention fully engaged in this way - on your partner, your breath,
your genital muscles -- you are going to last a long time. As your
lovemaking goes on, and on, and on... perhaps for hours, the energy
within you and between you and your lover will accumulate to such an
intense level that you may spontaneously experience the opening of your
higher "spiritual" centres. With this opening comes an experience of
ecstasy, bliss, joy, and wonder. This is where mastery of ejaculation
can lead you and your satisfied partner.