MOVING YOUR
SEXUAL ENERGYLearning to circulate hot sexual
energy is not really difficult, but it takes discipline and practice.
Within a few days of trying some of the techniques mentioned below
you''ll likely notice an improvement in your ability to delay
ejaculation. Real sexual energy mastery, however, may take several
months or even years. But unlike childhood piano lessons this is
practice you''ll look forward to!The PC Pump
PC stands for pubococcygeus muscle. Actually the PC muscle is a group
of muscles that together make up the pelvic diaphragm which stretches
from your pubic bone around to your tailbone. It includes muscles used
in urination and bowel movements, muscles around your anus, testicles,
penis, and perineum. Pumping the PC muscle is one of the easiest,
simplest and fastest ways to learn to move energy and delay
ejaculation. Pumping the PC muscle means squeezing or contracting the
muscle and then allowing it to relax repeatedly. Alternately you can
squeeze and then push out. You can do rapid pumps or long slow ones.When
you squeeze the PC muscle you pump the hot sexual energy up from your
genitals and into the upper part of your body. This prevents the sexual
energy from building up to involuntary ejaculation. If you can stay
relaxed and move energy away from your prostate as fast as it builds
up, you can delay ejaculation as long as you want. This is how Tantric
lovers are able to extend active lovemaking for 6 or 8 hours or more.
By the way, strengthening your PC muscle usually results in longer and
stronger ejaculations when you do have them.Add PC pumping to
your fitness routine. Build up to several hundred squeezes per day over
a two week period and eventually (if you are really keen) increase to
1000 or more per day. This might sound like a lot but you can do 100 PC
squeezes in a few minutes. You don''t even need to find new time to do
PC pumps-try them when you are standing in line, driving your car,
hoisting a few at the bar.Make Sound
As you get more and more excited make lots of sounds. You can moan,
groan, yell, scream, chant, sing, growl and make animal noises. The
louder and stronger the sounds you make the more that sound will carry
your sexual energy with it, up and away from your genitals. A wonderful
technique is to harmonize your chanting sounds with your lover. When
you do this at the peak of sexual arousal the sounds you make together
can be exquisitely beautiful.Hand Movements
Moving your hands up your body, or having your partner move her hands
up your body from your genitals to the top of your head, either on the
front or back of your body, is an amazingly simple but effective way to
move energy. You and your partner can do this repeatedly throughout the
length of your lovemaking.The Big Draw
You can alternate relaxing your body with a conscious full-body
contraction-the Big Draw. Breathe very deeply and rapidly for about a
minute when you are almost ready to come. Then hold your breath and
clench every muscle in your body. Tighten you fists. Curl your toes.
Grit your teeth. Tighten your buttocks, abdomen, arms, legs, chest,
etc. If you are lying on your back (recommended for doing the Big
Draw), push off from the surface with your buttocks and neck, while
arching your back. This forces the hot sexual energy up and often leads
to an explosive
orgasm without any ejaculation. You may also experience
altered states of consciousness with this very powerful technique.LEARNING THROUGH MASTURBATIONMasturbation
is an excellent way to become skilled at lasting a long time. Select a
private, comfortable, safe place for your practice where you will not
be interrupted. A wonderful variation is to have your partner watch you
masturbate. In this way you can teach her exactly how you like to be
touched and stimulated. But try it a few times alone before you put on
a show for your lover.Build your arousal to approximately 75% of
the way tpoint of no return. As you get better at it, you can go
closer to 90% or more. The point of no return is that point at which
ejaculation will become involuntary, when you''re likely to ejaculate
within seconds, most certainly within minutes. Stop what you are doing.
Use some of the techniques above for relaxation and energy movement and
allow your excitement to subside. Your
erection should also subside
before you start again. This allows the old blood to move out of the
penis taking with it waste products. When you start to re-build your
arousal, fresh blood will engorge the penis giving you a new erection.
This new blood carries with it a fresh supply of oxygen and hormones
bringing strength, vitality and virility. Many men ejaculate simply
because they do not allow their erection to diminish every 30-45
minutes-the penis becomes exhausted and involuntary ejaculation follows
quickly.Repeat this masturbation process of building to
approximately 75% of your point of no return, then stop, rest, and
build again, for any number of times. As you do this pay very careful
attention to what is happening in your body. Notice how your body feels
as you get closer and closer to orgasm. Notice that your body gives you
signals about how close to ejaculation you are: heat and hardness of
your erection, rapid breathing, muscular tension, and so on. In
particular look for sensations in your genital area at the prostate
gland. As your sexual energy builds in the prostate it is like a
pressure cooker. When the pressure gets too high, smooth muscles go
into involuntary spasm, forcing the ejaculation. If you pay attention
you will certainly feel something in the prostate as you approach this
point of involuntary ejaculation. As soon as you feel this sensation,
instead of going on to complete the ejaculation, you are going to stop
stimulating yourself and rest. Notice how your body feels as you relax
and let the energy (and erection) subside. Once you become adept at
recognizing this feeling in your prostate during self-pleasuring, you
can also be alert to this feeling during lovemaking, including active
intercourse with a partner.OTHER TECHNIQUES FOR MASTERING EJACULATIONPositions
Change intercourse positions frequently. Experiment with various
positions to find out if you can more easily delay ejaculation in some
of them. There are an infinite variety of positions in the following
categories: face to face, front to back, lying down, standing up,
sitting, rear entry, and sideways. Some men report that it is easier
for them to last longer during intercourse if the
woman is on top.
Also, face to face positions tend to be calmer, making it easier for
the man to delay ejaculation, while rear entry positions tend to
increase arousal very rapidly.Communicate With Your Lover
You must communicate your state of arousal to your lover. If your
arousal is cresting too rapidly ask her to change what she is doing, to
stop what she is doing or to slow down. Give her very specific feedback
on what you want and what you can stand. Be sure to do this in a
loving, respectful and playful way! Some
women believe that men aren''t
happy with the lovemaking until they come. Let her know that you''re
having a great time and want to keep on sharing your pleasure together.Examine Your Beliefs And Assumptions About Sex And Women.
Generally the more you like, respect and admire women the easier it
will be to learn voluntary ejaculation. On the other hand, the more you
dislike women the more difficult it will be. The simple reason for this
is that you will be in a hurry when you have sex if you dislike women.
Sex will tend to be a maintenance chore necessary for tension release.With
a subtle shift in the way you think, perhaps you can begin to make
love instead of just having sex. Open yourself to giving and receiving
pleasure rather than trying to perform. Open your heart. Allow yourself
to love your partner an
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