Faithful,
fake,
false, fruitful - choose any of these to describe your friendships!
friendship is a factor that will boost all relationships, including
marriage, and cause those involved to benefit maximally. It is an
indispensable ingredient in creating true warmth and caring.
Maintaining good friendships is a plus to all your other relationships. Women are thought to have been conditioned by society to make and keep more friends than men, as these latter have less practice in the art of intimacy.
People who never lack friends have developed certain fail-proof strategies:
* they make their friendships a priority
* they are transparent
* they are not afraid to talk about their affection
* they know the gestures that express love
* they make sure there is space in their relationships
We need to demonstrate warmth, to learn to praise others sincerely, to be able to engage in conversation, to listen, and to freely talk about our feelings.
This book talks about how to handle negative emotions without destroying the relationship. When we fight with friends, we need only to talk about our feelings but not to bring up the subject of their faults. It is not enough to criticise, we need to balance the criticism with lots of affection.
The author goes so far as to write about different ways we can employ to salvage a faltering friendship. We should ask ourselves about what it is we overlook in relationships which we feel are less than satisfactory. It is very important to learn to apologise whenever there is need for it. Personal neuroses are totally bad for any relationship, and we should take care to deal with them.
How is friendship like
money? It is easier to make than to keep! The ability to
forgive and move on is indispenable in maintaining a good friendship, for sometimes we do not see eye to eye even with our best friends, and we all have our moments.
The author advocates the building of freedom into friendships, to achieve the best.
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