MISTAKE #9: ALWAYS NEEDING TO BE THE EXPERT
Have you ever met a
smart guy who always needed to be "right"?
Have
you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about
something they knew nothing about... and make a fool of themselves
because they just couldn''''t shut their "
smart mouths"?
Over the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again...
Smart guys don''''t like to be "beginners" at ANYTHING.
They don''''t like the idea of screwing up... especially if others are watching.
They want to maintain this "smart guy" image of themselves... so they try to always be "The Expert" at whatever they do.
Instead of saying "Hey, you know what? I''''m a beginner at this... how do
I do it? What should I do first? What next?"... and instead of being
totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and making a fool of
themselves in front of others in order to LEARN...
...they won''''t risk embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they''''re beginners... so they wind up ultimately FAILING.
MORE NEWS JUST IN: It''''s OK to be a beginner.
MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN''''T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER
EMOTIONS A smart guy''''s STRENGTH is his MIND.
His WEAKNESS is often his EMOTIONS.
Smart guys are often IMMOBILIZED by FEAR.
Totally stopped.
FROZEN.
And since many smart guys aren''''t comfortable dealing with things they''''re not good at, they just repress or RUN away from fear.
Many men would rather DIE in lonely isolation than admit that they
don''''t know how to deal with their emotions... or, GODFORBID, ask for
help!
Hey, I went for YEARS like this.
I know what it''''s like.
But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even MASTER his
emotions (even fear)... if he just takes the time and effort to learn
HOW to do it.
If this is you, then do yourself a big favor... take the time. Take the effort.
Don''''t worry about what anyone else thinks of you... it doesn''''t matter.
What matters is you doing the things that YOU need to do FOR YOU.
...I think the reason why I''''m so fascinated with "The Genius Failure
Paradox" is because I have had to struggle with all of these issues for
a lot of years of my life.
Now, I''''m not saying that I''''m the smartest guy on the planet...
But I don''''t think mamma raised no fool.
And it always bothered the hell out of me that even though I was so good at figuring things out, I couldn''''t figure WOMEN out.
Something tells me that you know what I''''m talking about.
Well, after beating my head against the wall for a few years... trying
all kinds of crazy "logical" stuff... I finally got the "bright" idea
to start studying guys who were "naturally" good with women.
Of course, I found out that you could be both NOT SMART, and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN at the same time.
I also learned that you can be SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN too.
By carefully studying what the "naturals" did with women... and
learning how they "thought" about the topic, I began to realize that
success with women wasn''''t entirely LOGICAL.
Much of what I learned was very tough for me to accept... because my logical brain just didn''''t want to buy into it.
One thing I saw was guys pushing women away from them... and having the women then chase them in response.
Made no sense at all.
I saw guys tease beautiful women and make jokes about them to their
faces... and then watched those women become "little girls" in
response... unable to maintain their composure, and therefore unable to
maintain their manipulative power...
It took me quite a long time, but I continued to learn, test, and
refine what I was learning until I personally figured out how to
approach women in any situation... get any woman''''s number I wanted
anytime I wanted... date any type of woman I wanted...
...and most importantly, GET RID of that "empty" feeling