How to Make Friends Easily if You''re a Teen Many people find it hard to make friends. It really isn''t, so
get out of your shell and remember that if you love yourself,
others will too.
Steps
Relax. It''s all about
confidence - if you are nervous or try too hard to look cool you''ll
just act weird, so you won''t make any friends. You have to think of
good reasons of why someone would like to meet you, think of the
virtues you have. So relax, people will like you for passing a
peaceful energy.Make the first move. Don''t be shy, it won''t help you in
anything. Look around for someone that seems interesting, then
relax and go up to talk to them. Say hi, give them your name, ask
how they are and just meet them. If you know a bit about them, for
example, the
person likes crafts, you can talk about that. A good
subject to talk about to anyone is music, because everybody likes
music, you can ask someone what kind of music they like and start a
cool conversation with them and even find things in common.Be nice. How do
you expect them to like you if you are not nice? Put a calm smile
on your face and find out what you guys have in common. You''ll be
able to be more comfortable if you find out that other person has
things in common with you.Be
a good
listener. Give attention to what they say, look
straight in their eyes and show you''re paying attention. Nod,
agree, show you find that is interesting. It''s important to be a
good listener, because everyone likes to be heard, and if this
person feels like you''re listening to them, your new friend will
enjoy your company more.Be
yourself. I know you''ve heard it a lot of times, but no one
really likes a poser - people would like the real you better for
your virtues, not a fake person no one really knows. So just be
you, speak your mind, that way people will enjoy being around you a
lot more and feel comfortable that you''re not trying to deceive
them or are moving so fast that they can''t keep up (being fake,
trying to change what you truly are in a short period of time). Be
yourself and you will get people that like you for you.Develop
friendships. You may talk to someone now but soon they''ll
forget you if you stop. You better take a time to say hi to them
everyday and ask how are they going. Say their name as often as you
can, like every once every 3-5 sentence you say, unless you know
it''d seem awkward. When you greet them, say things like, "Hey
there, Alex!", "How''ve you been, Sarah?", "I hope classes are going
well with you, Josh!" If you do that everyday, they''ll be happy
that you care about them and remembered them, so they won''t forget
you and you guys will be good friends. Also, if you say the other
person''s name out more often, and they hate it, they can come to
appreciate it, because of you!Include those friends in your social life. Invite your
new friends to go out together with you, go to mall or hang out at
a cool place. You guys must have fun together, so you can introduce
your new friends to old friends and build your social circle from
there, with people that accept each other.
Tips
Get your new friend''s phone number, e-mail addresses and give
them yours; keep in touch.Don''t try too hard, relax
and be yourself - they will like you.Have
fun with your new friends; but don''t forget old friends.Stop thinking you are not cool enough to talk to them.
They will have good reasons to want to talk to you after they meet
you - think of your virtues!Smile! People are drawn to
happy, positive people!
Warnings
Remember that not everyone are true friends! So watch your back
and don''t trust everyone you meet.Don''t try too hard to impress a certain group only because they
have high status or something, it''s a lot better to meet a person
for themselves, not for what they have.With friends, it''s quality over quantity. Making one or two
best friends is usually enough.Take time to make sure they are true friends, not ones that''d
blab out all your secrets, things that can embarrass you, or draw
unwanted kinds of attention towards you.Be friendly, but don''t be too friendly. Not all people are nice
and some can try to take advantage of you. Don''t be afraid to show
your decisions, don''t pity time over time for the same person. It''s
a sign that they may be trying to make you their pet.If one friendship doesn''t work out don''t be afraid to start a
new one. Over time you should be involved in an awesome friendship.
If you fall just try, try, and try again.dont walk up to someone and start telling them all your
problems. some people think that is wierd. just give them enough
info. to contact you and consider you as a friend.