The
Way to Love is a radically fresh insight into the meaning of love
and what it takes to truly love. One who loves is truly happy, but
happiness, true happiness is elusive, something experienced rarely by
many. The Way to Love is about how to be truly happy by learning how
to love truly.
Causes of Unhappiness
The
root cause of unhappiness is blindness to the reality of what truly
makes one happy. By removing the scales that cover our eyes from
seeing truly what makes us unhappy one begins to gain the power to
love truly.
Programming.
The basic cause of unhappiness is our programmed belief that
happiness comes from having something or someone. It is a lie
programmed to us by our society and culture. It is a lie that
creates fear and dissatisfaction for not having something or someone.
Seeing this as illusion and dropping this, one discovers that one is
already happy.
Attachment.
Being attached to something or someone makes that something or
someone the source of your happiness. It has a positive effect –
having a fleeting moment of pleasure or excitement – and a negative
effect – fear and anxiety of losing and actual depression and
melancholy once the same is actually lost; either way it is hardly
happiness at all.
What is Love?
Love is characterized by
indiscriminateness, gratuitousness, unselfconsciousness and freedom.
It is causing your goodness to shine to all – the good and the bad
alike like a tree giving its shade to everyone. Love asks for nothing
in return, like a tree “it gives and asks for nothing in return”.
Love is unselfconscious, like a lamp the simply gives of its light
or a rose that just gives off its fragrance. Love does not force the
other to receive love, much like a tree that does not coerce anyone
to enjoy its shade. Love leaves the other completely free.
How to Love?
The way to love is to
see others as they are and yourself as you are. To see others as they
are, you need to drop your desires, judgments, biases, prejudices,
memories, projections, and selectivity with respect to the person or
object before you.
Then you need to see
yourself with your emotions, motives, desires, needs, self-seeking,
and tendency to manipulate and dominate. These lead you to a keen
awareness of the other and yourself and awaken in you a sensitivity
of heart. This sensitivity gives you a kind of compassion exhibited
by Jesus when he prays for his tormentors, “Father forgive them for
they do not know what they are doing”. It will enable you to be in
touch with the truly real person beyond your concepts, images and
prejudices. You will become like a child who warms up with any person
regardless of color, age, and appearance, having not acquired yet the
programming of the adults.
This
capacity to be in touch with the truly real makes your heart sing
with a happiness that will always be there and can not be taken away
no matter what. You discover that loving, truly loving reveals that
you are already happy and has no need to draw happiness outside of
you.
The
Way to Love is a wealth of meditations that opens up surprises
after surprises in new insights and uncommon wisdom on the way to
love.
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