The Art of Friendship
There are various proverbial definitions of friendship. ”A true friend is the one you do not have to say sorry or thank you to.”, ”A true friend is a mirror to you.” etc. The most “antique” one is “A friend in need is a friend indeed”. According to me, true friendship is the one that always has the scent of a flower that is yet to blossom. Its foundation is built on the pillars of trust, companionship and oneness.
When it comes to women especially, the matters of trust prove to be very sensitive. For, one functions as the personal diary of the other, in the case of best friends. One knows so much about the other enough to write her autobiography. The shroud of secrecy once torn apart by a third party is very fragilely restored. For, it takes years of friendship to build up the base of trust: trust is the basic foundation of friendship.
Companionship is the lubricating mechanism of friendship, for good companionship does not lead to any kind of friction. Perhaps the best way to describe good companionship would be, you sit with each other on a bench for hours not even talking to each other and at the end of the day you feel what a great day you had. The equation for such a relationship would be based one one’s comfort zone added to attitude and aptitude.
Quiet often opposites attract, because having the same tastes and opinions could prove to be quite monotonous. It is the small, small conflicts and contradictions that ultimately lead to decisions based on compromise and adjustment, that is truly wanted of true companionship. If it weren’t for these multiple-ripple effects in the lives of the two, life would come to a standstill. Without change, a relationship will stagnate.
True friendship is beyond all logic. Here, one plus one equals one. This is the rendering of oneness, the union of friendship based on caring and sharing. There are no egos but only on ego. This ocean of oneness has all the estuaries of experience and tributaries of love into it, that its fragrance traverses to the next generation in the forms of anecdotes, stories and quite often ideal examples for people to follow. It is not a question of give and take, but a state of being where the presence of one enriches the other.