Krynnster puts foward the following guidelines for men's online dating as follows.Misconception #1: the most important thing in getting women on the 'net is an amazingly original, incredibly well written personal ad.For starters, we all know that in the real world women will usually not pick up guys, so it is fair to assume that this mentality extends to the virtual world as well. Not less important is the fact that there are many more men looking on the 'net than women. Many women I talked to have told me that during the first weekend after they placed their ad they got about a hundred (yes, HUNDRED) replies. With that volume of emails to browse and weed through, most women don't really have the time to browse men's ads! They assume (and rightfully so) that all the men worth contacting have already sent them a reply.Misconception #2: girls don't really read your first email. They simply check out your ad and then decide whether to reply.As mentioned in chapter 1, the high quality girls will simply not have time to read all the replies they get.
I found the first email to be the most crucial element of online seduction. The problem is that you must make her notice your email and the trick here is to set yourself apart from the crowd.
Consider the typical formulaic email most guys send:Subject: Hello There!Hi InternetChick! I read your ad and I thought you were really interesting and I'd like to get to know you better. So... why don't you read my profile and write back. I'd love to hear from you soon,SomeGuy.Misconception #3: online seduction is a lengthy process.
This is wrong! If you spend too much time online with a lady you will become her virtual pen pal and you don't want that!The truth is that if you get a reply to your first email it means that the woman liked it, probably read through your ad and is VERY interested to find more about you. The email you will get will have a lot of questions and you have to capitalize on her high interest level and move things forward. Quickly.
The mindset you should have is this: the Internet personals are nothing but a pool of potential phone numbers and first dates. The more you get, the better your chances to find what you want so don't waste your time on virtual romance!.
You need to get her phone number and get her on a date as soon as possible. If you can't get the digits after the third or fourth email, chances are you will never get it!I don't think there are any misconceptions here so let's make it very clear: the purpose of the first phone call is to close for a date.
Call her a day or two after getting her number. Don't play the 4 day game here... you've never met her and you don't know if you want her so there's no point in delaying the process. Call during the evening but not too late (8pm works fine).If someone answers the phone, ask to speak with her (don't assume she's the one picking up the phone). Then introduce yourself (Hi, this is K), make minimal small talk and proceed with the close. You want to shoot for a short, casual date. Lunch works best and so does meeting for coffee or drinks after work. The point is that you have to make sure you won't get stuck if SweetCherry turns out to be a BitterLemon.
If you get the machine, leave a short message: Hi Lisa! This is K! I wanted to talk to you but you're not there, so why don't you give me a call when you come back? My phone number is xxx-xxxx. Talk to you soon..
When you finally meet her you will immediately know if there's a chance or not. If there is, practice your DJ skills and set up a longer, more open-ended second date. If there is no chance in hell you will want this lady, be courteous and show her a good time nevertheless. After all, she made the same effort as you did and deserves to be treated respectfully. At the end of the date tell her that she's a very nice girl but not really what you're looking for and wish her luck in finding Mr. Right.