What is forgiveness?
Forgiveness is the "action to release someone from an obligation to you which is the result of a bad action that hurt"
Forgiveness contains three elements: an injury, a debt resulting from the injury and the termination or cancellation of this debt. For there to be forgiveness these three elements are essential.
An unforgiving spirit from walking in a manner consistent with the Holy Spirit. All that is achieved in that case is to walk in the flesh and the consequences of a life are disastrous. (Galatians 6: 7-8)
Those who have not grasped the concept of forgiveness, by the very nature of the lack of forgiveness, have been willing to walk according to the flesh. When this happens, they lose. When you do not express kindness, patience, temperance, meekness and other aspects of the character of Jesus Christ, the flesh takes the individual as a hostage, and this is the best loser.
Charles Stanley, one of the most influential spiritual leaders of our time, reveals the key to personal and even world peace in his book The Gift of Forgiveness. Noting that there is no sin or evil ten disconcerting to prevent God's forgiveness nor so trivial it does not need God's mercy. Dr. Stanley stressed that the lack of forgiveness can lead to isolation, bitterness, hostility, indifference and even depression. Many times, the attitude of not forgiving or not receive forgiveness can become hatred and causing loss of control.
The Gift of Forgiveness, Dr. Stanley addresses issues such as how to practice a life of forgiveness in our relationships and how to make forgiveness a continuous experience. Interweaving stories of his own life and the people who gave advice, he shows how peace is born of forgiveness affects our attitude towards ourselves, towards others and towards God.
"Whatever your situation, no matter what has happened in the past, remember that you are a loser if you do not address the problem of unforgiving spirit ... You have within the power of forgiveness, healing and freedom to live a full real life "
Narrative of Dr. Stanley:
"It happened one Sunday morning. While driving to church, went over in my mind the events of last month. I was associate pastor of the First Baptist Church of Atlanta, Georgia, United States, and a committee looking to replace a pastor who had resigned. It was not long before people began to take sides. One group wanted me as a pastor, another group wanted an older man, more experienced, better known. And I was in the middle of that situation. My responsibility was simply to preach as the congregation struggled with this problem.
The infighting that followed left us exhausted my family and me. On several occasions asked me out, and I gladly would have done but for a reason. God said, "Stay." While my wife and I prayed, clearly knew that we had to wait on God and stay where we were.
Now after twelve months, it seemed that we began to see an end to this matter. In a turbulent business meeting that lasted three hours I had been elected pastor of the church. It seemed that we had saved the major obstacles. Very little did I know that the biggest obstacle, of forgiveness, had not yet been submitted.
The lines of this text are a compilation of measures to forgiveness from those they trust, he loved and considered my friends, and yet, have shown the opposite. More than anything, the book is a humble and respectful invitation to confront and deal with the poison of an unforgiving spirit. It is a poison capable of ruining not only his life but also the lives of others. I pray that you are revealed the benefits and freedom that is received on behalf of leaving the wounds and injustices of the past”.