You''re overweight and hung-up on food. You''ve tried dieting and it just made the condition even harder to break out of. What can and can''t you eat? Why can''t you be "good?" Why are you always so obsessed with calories?
Geneen Roth went through all the conditons an emotional eater can go through, from bulimia to nutritional hair loss. Finally one day she gave up the fight and ate whatever she wanted. It started out with a week''s worth of ice cream and cake, and ended up with salads. She didn''t eat the couch, the earth and half the moon. Instead, she learned more about emotional eating, and went on to teach people with food issues how to deal with them instead of resorting to diets.
The title of her book, When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair , refers to one piece of advice offered in this book: Look at the way you tend to go to the fridge or cupboard and start grazing from packages and containers, taking a bite of this and that without even heating up the leftovers. Would you do this to a friend who came to visit, or would you serve them on a dish, at the table? Why not treat yourself like a friend and stop pretending you''re just looking? Stop pretending, stop sneaking, stop hiding your eating.
Ms. Roth''s philosophy differs radically from the diet mentality: you are not a child who needs to be told what, when, where and how to eat. You know what''s right for you, and you can reframe your thinking and behaviors. Ms. Roth has written other books as well, exploring the relationship between emotional troubles and eating behavior.