Why Do Most Women Struggle in Their Relationships with Men?
There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble
, but as I mentioned before, the main reason is that women simply don''t understand men
. If a woman really understood men, she''d know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless
in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless
as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women''s magazines.
If you''re like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice
. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist
, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful
relationship with a man (very important!) -- it''s unwise to take relationship advice or tips
from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden
-- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City
TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men
Now, don''t get me wrong. Some of your girlfriends might indeed have the wisdom to give you good advice -- but that advice will almost always be based only on their own limited experience and observation. Just because your girlfriend has had an experience similar to yours doesn''t mean her advice applies to your situation.
I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn''t working right!
Just goes to show how little women know about men