As a parent and every parent, I suppose, hopes to raise a child to become
a better person who can be somebody in the world he lives in. A person who loves himself and a person who relates positively with other persons. The book of Dr. Leman points out that the basic thing that we need to focus on is not the
behavior of our kids but how kids can achieve acceptable behavior by achieving
positive self-image. He agrees with Dr. Dinkmeyer that when a child "sees himself as worthwhile and useful" will not likely yo develop destructive patterns of behavior such as turning to drugs and rebellion. A child with positive self image possesses a "cooperative spirit, a sense of responsibility and positive attitude."
Dr. Leman enumerates the A-B-C''s of self worth.
A stands for acceptance and affirmation. The positive feeling and belief that he is lovable and his parents really care about him. From that, he also learns that God loves him.
B is for " belonging, which is the other side of the acceptance coin". When a child feels he belongs, he believes that he is worth somethng, he is important and he "fits in".
C stands for competence . A child with positive self-image is capable and believes that he "can do it".
Dr. Leman gives us some points and strategies we can use to help our children gain positive self-image without tearing them down. He gives us alternatives we can use where parents and children enjoy each other from learning from each other and growing together.
If we wish to have a better world, let''s raise am individual with positive self-image, responsible person.