A GORGEOUS young sardar dressed in tight lycra pants, leather boots and a black snug, displays his taut midriff. A transparent
beaded chunni, attached to his pagdi, sways with him to some sexy remix. His friend (he could well be a promising catch for any Punjabi kudi) encircles his waist and whispers something that makes our queen laugh.
Sexual behaviour when a person shows an emotional and physical attachment for members of his own sex is
Homosexuality. It is present both in males and females. In the latter, it is called “Lesbianism”. Often the sexual impulses lead them simply to a deep comradeship. At times, it may take the form of homosexual activity. For most people these emotions represent merely a temporary substitute for relationship with the opposite sex. They are not at all
homosexuals.
Social Activist, Ritu, would beg to differ. ‘‘Homosexuality is 100 per cent against nature. It is a momentary pleasure-seeking device and there is no need for it.’’
But on the contrary, Twenty-seven-year old Sharad faced a different kind of denial. ‘‘It took me a long time to admit that I’d fallen in love with a guy. I’ve been in love with girl and never really thought about the possibility of being bisexual,’’ he says. But that was until he met Chatur, his partner who is currently staying with him.
Of course, it’s still illegal to be gay in India—Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code says ‘unnatural intercourse’ is a punishable offence. But the media has been foregrounding queer visibility a lot recently. Be it a serial on TV, like Will & Grace, or films like Fire, Mango Soufflé, Summer In My Veins, Ashq, Gulabi Aaina or even a front-page news item on Goa-based designer Wendell Rodrick’s commitment ceremony after 20 years with his partner Jerome, all reaffirm a queer presence.
Some experts say “Genesis account is clear on the point that God created male and female with the intention that they bear children. In promoting that purpose He made the desires of male and female be toward each other. That was the will of God. Evidently, this was God's will for procreation and for the providing of a protective and nurturing situation for the offspring”.
Than what makes a person homosexual? Nobody knows. There are many theories like genetic theory, hormonal theory, psychoanalytical theory and peer influenced theory, but none has been proved beyond doubt. However, the most widely accepted and convincing theory about homosexuality today is that, all people have a potential for homosexuality and that certain experiences in childhood or adolescence within the family, have the effect of reinforcing this natural potential.
Teenagers are prone to fall in homosexual relationships. They in particular may feel a strong attachment for a friend or an adult of the same sex whom they admire and love. This attachment may sometime lead to sexual interaction. But this is not homosexuality. This is merely a homosexual experience. Nobody need suffer from any anxiety with regard to this. True homosexuality is an entirely different thing. In this, the concerned person is unable to have sexual relations with the members of the opposite sex. They can have sex exclusively with members of their sex.
Homosexuality was being practiced widely in some ancient civilisations and it was accepted as a normal form of sexual behaviour. But in many societies homosexuality came to be considered abnormal. People thought it was neurotic behaviour. Therefore, homosexuals are under considerable emotional stress. And this affects their attitudes towards society at large. After extensive research into this type of behaviour it was realised that neuroses has nothing to do with homosexuality. Hence in 1978, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from the list of approved neuroses.
Homosexuals are perfectly normal physically and mentally. In fact, many great scientists, artists and litterateurs have been and are homosexuals. Homosexuality is not linked ith criminality. Homosexuals may make mistakes or commit crimes just as much as anybody else
Many homosexuals are well adjusted socially. Some, however, may suffer from a feeling of persecution and insecurity. Because of the attitude of the society in general, they feel that something is wrong with them and that they are abnormal. Those who consider themselves abnormal feel unfriendly to others and lead a lonely life with severe emotional problems. Homosexuals who do not feel that they are abnormal should be left alone. They do not require any advice. But those who are too depressed and suffer from anxiety and shame require help. Psychotherapists and sex therapists can help them to cope with the society at large.
Ravi 23 years old says “We are normal human being, why people treat us as contagious disease or as untouchables, we have feelings and it hurts. We can be
Good friends and can help society, it’s not our mistake that we are gay; it is given us by god. We are humans” and started crying.
His tears were telling just one thing we have a heart of normal human being and it hurts.
(This article -“It’s a guy thing!!!” has been made with the help of some previous articles already published)