Communicate with your child
It’s
important, as a parent, to
Communicate with your child and create an atmosphere in
which your child feels comfortable discussing his/her life.
Parents find it difficult to regard their children as adults’ in spite of how old, big or mature the children grow. This often causes a conflict of interest between parent and child. It’s
important for you to
communicate with your child and create an atmosphere in which your child feels comfortable discussing his/her life.
Keep following factors in mind:
Love: Children, especially in their teenage can be very persuasive emotionally. It is important not to be carried away by the love and live into any impulsive decision of your child which may regret later.
Ego: Don’t let ego come in the way of your changing your decision if you feel that your child is correct in his/her view. Ego can spoil a healthy relationship. The best way to teach humility to children is to lead by example.
Win-Win: Always try and assess if there is a solution which is acceptable to you and your child. Keep your child long term interest in your mind.
Assumption: Children can surprise you with their thought and feelings. Never assume that you know all aspects of a situation. Be curious to ask everything that you feel you need to know. Even seemingly unimportant detail can turn out to be very important in terms of understanding how and why your child feels the way he/she does.
Conclude: Don’t leave any decision pending as it opens room for miscommunication, distrust, impatience and can mar relationship with your child. Don’t be in hest but don’t delay in taking decision in inordinately. This may not be appreciated by your child and might influence him/her not to approach you the next time for guidance or advice.
Respect: You should respect your decision. If you feel that certain changes are necessary then discuss them with your child. If you keep your channels of communication open you will find that these new changes will get incorporated seamlessly and with little or no friction.