This paper discusses two
different theories of love, that of 12th century monk, Bernard of Clairvaux, and 20th century psychotherapist,
Erich Fromm. The
paper presents Bernard's philosophy of the 'Four Stages of Love' that, according to him, state that Man will always love himself for his own sake, that man generally loves God in order to gain an advantage for himself, that man loves God for God's sake, and finally, that man loves himself for the sake of God. This is compared to Fromm's book, "The Art of Loving," and his extensive and
different ideas on love.