Two approaches in view of a problem
In my experience working and interacting with many people, I observe there are two types of people in dealing with the issue or problem, either in work or social life. Two types are reactive (react so the problem is coming) and receptive (receptive problems).
They are reactive usually see a problem as a threat. Whether the threat to his career, his business, his family, and so on. In this group you find solutions to problems using logical and traditional approaches. Characteristics:
Once the problem you are likely to soon come looking for any way to overcome them.
The problem is seen as a factor inhibiting the development of self.
You will soon develop a strategy to deal with problems
Because the problem is seen as a threat, he would dominate the mind and tend to cause anxiety and stress.
If you work in the company, perhaps you've been asked to lead a project in which you are responsible for achieving certain targets. Here you are confronted with situations requiring analysis, justification, and logical thinking role in facing the challenges or problems that arise. You will be under pressure to meet deadlines.Predictably, you will tend to use a reactive approach in solving problems.
This approach is usually practiced by those who have realized that the problem is not a threat but rather the consequences arising from a condition that we create.Hence we have the power to change these conditions from within oneself. You want to accept the problem and at the same time make solusinya.Ciri-character:
When trouble comes, you recognize it and use the approach:
The problem is the opposite of the solution. When problems arise, you believe then that the solution already exists.
You focus on the solution of problems arising, rather than on the cause of the problem. Thus you take over control from within yourself, rather than driven by circumstances outside.
The problem is an opportunity for self-development. You see it as an opportunity to meciptakan positive reality in your life.
Willing to accept the problem does not mean silence. You do not "on fire" but recognizing the problem calmly and make yourself responsive to everything you need to invite solutions.
The simplest example is when your beloved spouse (eg wife, husband, or boyfriend) is sulking because a trivial problem. With a reactive approach, you will only aggravate the situation by wondering why he should be cranky, analyze the cause and feel of these conditions will threaten the harmony of your relationship with him.Instead of solutions obtained but rather anxiety and worry.
With a receptive approach, you accept and realize that your partner is angry. You focus your energy to create the affection which is basically the opposite of anger.You are not late getting carried away - trying to find answers to the analysis of why he was so angry - but it took over control from within ourselves, continue to think calmly, and showed a positive attitude in your behavior. You will feel that being in this situation it makes you grow. You create the positive qualities of your self to the surface and has become the law of nature with your partner to behave like this will undoubtedly change from anger to love.
This receptive approach can practice in your business life, household, and social.Essentially you build confidence that the problem is not real so you do not feel burdened. Train yourself not to be reactive when a problem arises. Focus yourself on the opposite of the problem, namely the solution, to find the control and not soluble in the matter.