Try to apply this way according to the situation, and make sure that the people who help you care for your child using the same way with you
Try to calm
The panic you face your little tantrum will spark anger. Seeing you can not control themselves, the child will panic and hard to control him as well. Little need someone who can transmit serenity to control the situation, because of limitations in control at this age.He also needs the assurance that in whatever situation you still love him.
Remember the cause
Try typing in your agenda, what little anger of ignition. Sometimes tantrums because children are too tired, hungry, or too much stimulation. If this is the case, try to avoid this situation.Alternatively, your child tantrums only appear if he was taken to the supermarket. If so, limit the departure to the supermarket with
bring the child.
Speak softly but firmly
If you scream then your child will respond with a more intense screams. But if you can speak with a subtle but steady intonation, this will help your child cope with themselves. Sometimes being too subtle sounds that you say, your child can not hear. It is actually beneficial, because usually he would pause to concentrate on what you say.
Get rid of the desire to use physical punishment
Baby tantrums sometimes make parents upset, so that parents unwittingly impose physical punishment such as hitting or pinching so that the little quiet. This is a sign that you also have lost self-control.
How to request your child learn to control himself, if the parents themselves are not able to control yourself?
Do not argue
Invite your child for his anger burst arguing is useless. At this time the child can be expected to think rationally. Wait until he is able to use logical thinking back, just encourage him to discuss.
Keep your child from possible harm
Sometimes your child use a lot of hitting or kicking motion. If this does not look out to harm himself or others around him. Try taking him to a safer place, for example tidurkan it in bed, or tie a safety rope when he rages in the stroller. If not possible,
try to hold, or hug him to avoid things that are not desirable. In addition to preventing the possibility of harm, by holding or hugging, you help your child feel together 'parts'
of him who has been 'shattered'. Bear hug also help shed the anger, both for the child and you.
Show that you understand the feelings of the child. For example, by saying, "I know it's hard if you do not get what we want.Mothers also often feel disappointed and angry if the mother does not get what she had wanted ".
Try to divert the attention of child
Sometimes a child is very difficult to cope with his tantrums.Parental intervention may even exacerbate the anger. If this happens, try to distract him with him to a game that has not been done, or perdengarkan favorite songs of joy. Another way that can be tried is a humorous example
by saying, "Whatever you do, do not laugh! ... Uh, you know why even laugh ".
Give the time gap
If your child can not control himself for longer periods of time, try to give the time interval. For example, let him alone in his room until his anger subsided. But of course all that should be under your supervision. Make sure that it is safe to be alone in his room.
Do not be afraid if you do not subside
If you are unable to relieve his tantrums, do not be too worried.Maybe he did take time to express his emotions. After he was relieved, then it will all end soon.