The
relationship between the son-in-law certainly will not be the same as
the relationship between parents and children, the relationship between
law and the law there is no separation distance, although it should be
regarded in law as his own by-laws, but in reality it is the law of the
child remains menantyu is
a child, when the relationship in law - law that comfortable, peaceful,
loving, and harmonious aja certainly no problem, but in fact rather
difficult to find a harmonious relationship between the law - law.
Disharmony is sourced from a variety of things such as:
A. didamkan-law
criteria that do not correspond to reality, for example want to have a
doctor's son-er failure by legal scholars, civil-law wanted to have a
big tax duitnya eh .. failure by the teacher, wanted to have a son-military academy graduates failure by BANPOL,
2. Ethnic
differences (ethnic), every ethnicity has its own character - his own,
as examples of the Batak, hard, stingy, and felt themselves superior to,
the fields tend to be cunning and stingy (*** patron suami2 scared
wife), the Menadao love spree -loving,
people tend to give in but gugurutu Sunda behind (*** there is a saying
in the Sunda basic Batak, Javanese basic, basic Padang sorry there are
only three tribes that are often expressed ***)
3. Differences in social class,
4. Especially
for women-in-law there are concerns about the loss of love from her
boys, they are generally afraid of love and attention all children fall
on his wife (son)
5. There
is a sense of suspicion and distrust of law men will kesetiaanya,
worried her son polygamy (*** Once when a man marries field and Batak
people instead of one tribe at the shoreline, when they return home at
his mamak ninik like being forced to marry again tribal people)
6. Hatred
against a particular ethnic stored in the subconscious (*** Bubat war
there is a sense less Sundanese JV against the likes of Java, or the
Acehnese toward Javanese soldiers who considered the war in Aceh VOC),
etc..
What should be done by the son-in-law to be loved?
based
on the discussion of the chat maen gapleh at a security post until
Ngalor ngidul chatting in a coffee shop, tersaringlah several ways you
can get a tuk un love-in-law, the high cost of up to a cheap, here we
will discuss how a low-cost al; ais no-cost al:
A. When
dining with the same laws do not try eating with a spoon, but directly
on the hand, then finished eating rice-rice that sticks dijari not be
discarded but licked (*** finger input that is served until the rice
into the mouth of the net).
2. Create in-law are proud to praise his work (*** Do not overdo the praise) example, Mamah! I often eat Gule Gule but Mamah gemana made so ..... , If you want to remember Gule like Mamah!
3. Praise her appearance while we improve if there is a lack of mat
4. Hugs
and kisses his wife with affection and praise that makes sense but
steady in front of women-in-law, he must be happy and believe in us.
5. Bantu homework if in-law's house, do not get skipper (*** sweep, ngepel, washing dishes, etc.).
6. Do not forget to come on holiday, do not delay.
7. Reel-in-law
to tell us about his prowess in the past, when the sleepy do not find a
way nguap ketoilet permission first, wash your face and let fresh
coffee.
8. Be
patient when the nurse that pain-in-law (*** remember your wife /
husband that we are they who care for loved ones adan educated).
Well, so first the ways recipes based on the experience of having a fairly high success rate, however a harmonious relationship between menatu by-laws is necessary in fostering harmony in the household, especially when we already have children, if not love the son-in-law usually will also impact on the grandchildren derived from in-laws who did not like it.
daqn good luck and do not easily discouraged tiodak forget to pray to God almighty.to love-in-law, good luck, yours respectfully