"Tips to Avoid The Divorce (Broken Home)"
As if divorce is now so easy to be a solution when there are problems in the family. Disturbingly, divorce has now become a trend. Where once the divorce is considered a disgrace, not anymore. Even be considered a normal thing. The proof, divorce trend is likely to increase.
With
the growing trend, one can imagine the divorce statistics in 2012 are,
of course dominated the divorce from his wife divorces. Citing the economic problems, infidelity, incompatibility of personal, domestic violence is not the right to polygamy.
* Shifted
The family is the first place for people to understand the meaning of life. The family is also the place genarasi coaching future leaders. No
doubt, the vital role of parents in the family becomes the key to
success keluargamembina generation will affect the conditions of
civilization. Because, in the family of the prospective builders of civilization (ie the kids) get an education first.
As the smallest institution in society that plays an important role, at least the family has 8 (eight) function, namely:
Reproductive function is first produced offspring from the family legally
The
second function of the family economy as an independent economic
entity, anggoita family and spend a treasure to meet the needs
The third function of socialization is to introduce the values and norms in society.
Protective function of the fourth family to protect members from physical threats, economic and psychosocial
Recreational function of the fifth family is a recreation center for its members
The sixth function is to give love Affective
Seventh Educational Function of providing education.
Religious Function eighth family is religious experience to family members.
Unfortunately, the function of today''s families are more likely to experience a "shift". If a mother''s first marriage mempetahankan, though heavy for her son so as not to lose a father figure in their lives. Now it''s no longer a sense of weight. I''m so ready to be a single parent. So
mothers feel economically independent, divorce is not a stranger to be
taken when there is a dispute with her husband, even though the kids
were little. Thus the husband, every wife perselesihan with, say divorce so lightly rolled from his lips. The family is sensed as a function of economic and emotional outlet places. Clearly, such a family is not a fertile place for growth genberasi future.
* Tips to Avoid
A. Find the root problem. There was no smoke if there was no fire. Household problem there must be the cause. Therefore seek the root of the problem and try to finish well. For each problem would have a way out.
2. Introspection. Any problems that occurred in the two parties, then they must have contributed, although kecxil. By introspection, we are always saying that we really are one of our husbands.
3. Think of the impact. Whatever the reason, the divorce will always leave sadness, especially for children. Children usually become most powerful weapon to reduce conflict husband and wife. They still need their parents. Do they have to be a victim of her parents'' divorce because of selfishness?
4. Consult. Able to kekluarga or the competent authorities such as the family consultant. It''s just remember, do not cover the root of the problem at hand, be upfront. Mediators hope to find solutions to unite. Obviously chosen mediator really can really be trusted can find a way out and keep a secret.
5. While separation. When all means be taken is still not showing a bright spot, apart for a while will help the couple to calm down. Two hearts together opanas, well do not see every day. I could have kept quiet and there is no common ground. Can the heat had passed, be prepared to communicate. Discuss the best way to defend marriage. Do not feel embarrassed or contact the prestige to each other.
6. Pray. Plenty to pray and be close to God. Ask for guidance from Him. Is not the Lord of this universe? With more diligently and closer, God willing, we Ruling to be missed.
Hopefully Helpful ................................................