How Do I Establish a True Friendship?
“there are companions are more than brother” since
these words written about 3000 years ago, since that''s when the human natural
trend has not changed. that we still need a companion, a friend is just as
important as food and water. However, many people still find it difficult to
meet basic needs.
It''s hard not to be able to figure out what the
cause is, as it says Carin Rubenstein and phillip Shaver in their book, In
Search of Intimacy. There they cite many factors “his mobilitas entrypoint”. People often moving houses,
cities are full of evil and indifference, as well as television and video. That
replaces chatter with neighbors
Modern life has also become are your triggers,
our time and energy drained by a fast-paced life. Until we are good too busy in
work or in personal affairs. Slowly we feel our friendship started falling
apart. well as pursued by the time and era, friendship can be considered less
As the book In Search of Intimacy of loneliness
is not an illness, loneliness is a healthy hunger ..., a natural phenomena that
we have less friends. As if we already felt hungry, of course our mind moves us
to eat food that is tasty and nutritious. As well as a sense of loneliness
should drive us to search for good friends.
Dr. Alan Loy McGinnis expert advisor family. “a
man who has friendship within and
lasting it may just be a shy person, young, old, supel, stupid, ugly, handsome,
clever, or pretty. However, there is one trait that they have inclusion”. But
this means You must not bluntly telling your personal secrets to just anyone.
You must be selective and gradual tell what you really think and feel. Even
though you are a carefree person, a growing mutual confidence still takes time
and togetherness. In the meantime try not to be too concerned about what others
think about yourself.
Show You Respect To
A key element to another for a happy and
lasting friendship is mutual respect. This includes exposing weigh sense to
others. Wouldn''t you want to friend you being careful not to offend You when
taste or their opinion differs from yours? Surely You must also treat them the
same way. Another way we show respect is by not reining in our companions.Beware
of a tendency to wish your friends just hanging out with You. If they talk
about personal things to other people, do not be offended and even steer clear
of them. Learn that we all need to open up wide, give Your friends the chance
to make friends with others as well.
While our friendship with someone, surely we
will become more aware of the disadvantages and advantages of each other.
However, it should not hold us to make lasting friendships. Yes, sometimes
people expect too much from their new best friend. They want to be friends only
have good properties. But it is impossible. Because no one is perfect, then we
have no right to demand perfection from others. As author Dennis Prager, he
says, “the perfect friend” (which never complaining, always dear, never pissed
me off, and never let us down) it is just a pet. So surely we don''t want to
just have only chum a pets, doesn''t it?
Friendship Love And Sorrow Together Passes
We should not assume that maintaining the
friendship didn''t take effort. When separated by time and distance, the two
friends will think of each other and pray for each other. Although rarely met,
they could immediately felt familiar while able to meet. Especially in
difficult times. We must not pull away when the friends we have a problem.
Because maybe that''s when they really need us. And, when there is a
misunderstanding among friends true friends, they quickly keeping peace and forgive each other. True friends don''t
leave just because of his friendship is not smooth
First of all if you intend to establish a
friendship with someone who you encounter, you can asked ourselves, with whom
he was friends? because a person''s personality can usually be identified from
his close friends. In addition, what people who are mature and respectable in
society about him? Anyway, it''s good to consider not only how the prospective
companions that treat others, especially people who do not give him an
advantage. Unless someone shows the good traits such as honesty, patience, and
weigh on each occasion and taste, to everyone. Then what would guarantee that
he will always treat you well?
Well, to get to know one''s true nature demands
patience, skill, and time to observe people in everyday life. and we we need to
also speak to prospective companions on the topic of serious topics that reveal
personality, motivation, and their values. What kind of people are they?
Whether they be friendly or frigid? Whether they are basically being positive
and or negative and cynical Jolly? Unselfish or selfish? Trustworthy or not
loyal? If the person that disfigure others ahead of you, what would prevent him
to talk negatively about you and he did it behind You?
Then if you want to get your true friends, it
is not enough just hoping, waiting, and reading the writings like this. But
learn to friendship, just like learning to ride a bike. It surely cannot be
learned through guidebooks. We have to practice, though we must fall get up.
And to have good friends, we don''t have to look for new friends. If we have to
have good friends, try find out what we can do to strengthen our friendship.
Above all things, earnestly remember that true
happiness and friendship true gained if you give yourself, your time, your
resource, and be a friend.