Why does this
beautiful feeling often fade away and even die? Is it our fault that we can't save it, or it's something inevitable? If the death of love isn't inevitable, what can we do to prevent it from fading?
The following represents only the author's subjective opinion who doesn't claim it to be applicable to every couple. I do believe that it's up to us to cherish this feeling, or to
let it go.
Different individuals look at it differently. Someone will
say that great sex is the key. As long as it's good, your love will stay alive. You may be advised (if you care for any advices) to spice it up and to buy Kamasutra, make a trip to Victoria's Secret or some sex shop, or do some romantic things like covering the bed with rose petals. If you decide anything from the above mentioned list, you'll find out that Kamasutra requires acrobatic skills; Victoria's Secret may become too costly for a family budget; sex shops will offer you tools and devices that may work only for very odd personalities, therefore if you are "regular",
don't even go there. Finally, covering the bed with rose petals is sweet and romantic, but would you want to mess up with cleaning them afterwards? Sex is important, but you don't
need, as I believe, to be very inventive. All you need is to show you love, tenderness and passion in a way that suits you both. Look at one another with adoration, say "I love you" when you make love, whisper your love's name to express how great you feel around him/her. There's no need to scream loudly to let them know how wonderful the moment is, for it may scare and confuse your neighbors (if you live in an apartment) or wake up your kids (if you have any). Personally I think that those crazy screams which I heard once from the apartment upstairs were to impress the partner. Make sacrifices for each other. Spend the entire evening doing something that your sweetheart likes: watching some "stupid" as you think movie from Life Time channel with your wife, or some game with your husband. They deserve it, even though you don't care about those things
Guys, don't tell us, women that you are not "
mind-readers'" and that you need to
hear what we want. Be or become "mind-readers". We want to be known very well. Once you obtain that knowledge, use it as a powerful tool to make us happy: don't do or say things that irritate or hurt us. We always want to hear that we are beautiful, attractive and sexy. If we have a man who knows us very well and makes us feel comfortable, wanted and happy, we'll never trade him for a richer, better-looking or younger guy.
Ladies, keep in mind that men are pretty much like children, and often are more sensitive than we are about things which we consider unimportant. Once my husband got so upset because I made a comment about him talking too slowly, that he didn't talk to me for two days. Later I found out that many people told him that, but he could't help it, it was just the way he spoke. Most men like to hear that they are the best. Tell them that and explain what makes them the best. Admire your husbands or lovers, but do it sincerely. If they do something to make you miserable, let them know about it without getting hysterical and making scenes (if you can). Always communicate. Don't say things in order to hurt them back. Saving or keeping love takes much forgiveness and patience. Don't argue over little things because they are usually the ones that make things go sour. Cherish this beautiful thing, love, and don't take it for granted.
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