Why do some marraiges make it and others don't? Is there really a secret to
staying married for fifty years and more? Could
something so simple as not arguing before going to bed make any difference? Can it be that listening with both ears while not talking is useful? Maybe just remembering why you got wed in the first place adds fuel to the marital fire. The list could go on forever.
So why is so many people get divorced? Maybe they got
married for all the wrong reasons. It may be they did not think it out completely. Seeing the big picture before walking down the aisle does mean being happy and not ruining a life. Knowing it is not just to get out of the house or to show somebody you're right is a poor reason for saying I do.
Happily married people are happy to be with the person they married. Couples staying together for forty, fifty, and and sixty years or more live by a basic policy. He or she who talks to and not at their mate hears more and says less. The spouse taking the time to understand his or her mate is understood better. The wife supporting her
husband encourages him to succeed. The husband who gives his wife the leverage to be herself will get that support. In other words it is a two way street. Marraige is what one makes of it. Hopefully a union blessed to last until death do they part.