AFTER ALL WHAT IT IS ?TO BE ALONE?? To be alone is to have a space or territory that is alone ours and where does not
fit plus nobody, is basic condition to reach the emotional balance. This
capacity is acquired in the first year of life. Carlos Amaral Dias comments despite in festive periods that the people with emotional difficulties disclose more its you distress, many times translated for them you celebrate phrases ?Detesto the Christmas?, or, ?I hate you square festive?. They are necessarily the people with feelings of
pathological solitude that have more difficulty in living square it Christmas, even because, as it affirms this psychiatrist ?the secret and the success of the Christmas results of an unconscious fenómeno that is the identification that all we make, or not with the God - boy. All we gostariamos to have been born of that form, of being loved in that way, for that father and that mother. ?It is therefore that in this height it has a species of ?adjustment of accounts? with the past, with our ?infantile narcissism?. E AFTER ALL WHAT IT IS ?THE SOLITUDE?? According to this specialist, the experiences of solitude follow-in the ones since the beginning of the development until the a death, having this feeling to be folloied by the capacity to think our proper individual experience, that if consubstancia in the capacity to be alone. Carlos Amaral Dias affirms that the solitude does not become pathological crónica nor, but before is necessary. The first elaboration of the pain of the solitude, becomes when the child if apercebe ?of a reality that is so penosa as essential?: - Apercebe that it and the mother are not the same person. - Of - the father counts itself nominated that the mother is still on to other people. In contrast of what if it could think, they are the people who better become related socially that they have capacity to be alone, and are only capable to be alone ?who obtained to elaborate the pain of the solitude?. The difference between children, adolescents or young that suffers from solitude varies in function of the age, therefore only what dumb they are the symptoms: the child cries and makes birras and the adolescent or manifest young other psychosomatic signals. Two pathological forms to assume the solitude: - solitude chosen as prohibited against the reality (the solitude esquisóide). - life that did not give alternative to the people against the solitude. Nowadays many people complain of the incapacity to be alone. It happens that ?when we are alone, we are not alone, we are alone with our thoughts. E when these are laborious provokes auto-depreciation and autodepreciação feelings that originate an enormous depressive pain ". To finish, Carlos Amaral Dias, advise-in making mood connosco proper and with the others of form to keep a good mental health.