Let us look at a scenario. You are in love and you have progressed in relationship.
Both of you are happy with each
other and plan to think of future. And
a third person enters your life. You are in love with that person. You
find animal magnetism in that new entrant and feel quite helpless. You
wish to break up with your old flame and develop relationship with the
new. You are getting confused about what you should do?
This is not very unusual. Many marriages
have been broken because of this. Many relationships got
destroyed because of this. The failure to understand what is happening and the
failure of right judgment may leave both the earlier partners
destroyed. Let us look at this situation in detail and discuss the
options.
The first step would be to assess the earlier relationship.
Find out whether you will be happy after breaking that. If you find
that unhappiness will be more than any possible gains, you must drop
the idea of developing the new relation and carry on with the earlier
one.
If you are getting very much
attracted with the new entrant,
please think about your reasons. What are the reasons of your
attraction? is it only lust or something else? Will you be more
satisfied in the new relationship? Or will that be temporary as one
more person enters your life.
A relationship cannot be developed on sudden attraction. It has to grow
slowly and both the partners contribute to make a good relationship.
Before entering into a new relationship, please weigh all the options
and then decide. Hasty and emotional action can lead to long-term pain.