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Stop Worrying And Start Living

Book Summary   by:slade     Original Author: slade
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Worry this is a common problem Worldwide. Why do people worry? There are various reasons why people worry. Financial loss, mourning the death a loved one, Not being able to cope with life. Not being confidant, etc. These thoughts are detrimental to the well being of mankind. I realise that today. There was a time in my life when things did not work out for me. I always felt threatened and was very insecure. I did not know how to handle people. I was always upset and miserable. As time went by I realised that I had to face life head on and to stop bickering over trivialities. My greatest challenge came when I got married. My Husband was an introvert and was extremely sensitive; I was too scared to joke with him for fear of upsetting him. At the beginning I walked lightly around him in order not to offend him. I later realised that was not good for the relationship at all as we needed to be more open with one another. My husband was temperamental and always looked for fault in me. He beat me up and despised me. I was criticised for not being the type of wife that he wanted me to be. I was unhappy and miserable. This continued for many years and as time went by I started realising what was happening to me. I then decided to take charge of my life and told myself that I was also Human and that there was nothing wrong with me. I started to think positive thoughts and did not allow criticism to get me down. He criticised me and told me how useless I was and I turned around and told him that He was the useless one and not me. He tried to beat me and I beat him back. He was taken aback and did not believe what was happening. Nevertheless, he backed off and thought twice about interfering with me again. I started becoming more confidant within myself as I realised that there was nothing wrong with me and that I also had a life. There was a lot of difficulties that lay ahead but I managed to work around the problems that cropped up. It was not easy but somehow I managed to get out of a situation. There was a time that nothing was going right in my life. My husband was a jeweller, all his equipment was attached by the court and sold to recover debts that was owing to his suppliers. The car that we owned with one last instalment to pay was also attached. I was paying the vehicle off for almost 2 years as my husband had lost his jobs and was working from home. The money that he was earning was never seen by me as he used it to feed his drug habit. We lost most of our valuable stuff and were almost destitute.
He became very despondent and went downhill one-way. I decided to stop worrying and close the doors to what had happened, and to work towards building a new future. I prayed to God and asked for help. The peace that I found with prayer was most rewarding. I started collecting my thoughts and analysed the situation. I did a self analysis of the situation and myself and started to work around improving the things that needed to be changed in my life. I learnt that there is no room for crying over spilled milk and to move on with my life. The inevitable happens. With time things did get better. I have a new job and earn good money, all the money that was lost has been recovered 3 times more. I realise that what ever has to happen will happen fate is not in our hands but the Creator. I am no longer angry, I have forgiven my husband for all the wrong that was done to me. We are no longer together but have become good friends. I am now in control of my life. I tackle things on a daily basis and do not allow bad vibes like criticism, hatred get to me.I live for the day, what happened yesterday is in the past and what should happen tomorrow is still to come. Every morning I wake up and engage in prayer and love to listen to the birds singing outside. A new day has dawned and I am much happier and fulfilled. I know life will have its challenges and that is what I have to accept. How I handle these challenges is what matters. These are the rules that I live by
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To accept the inevitable.
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Live for the day.
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Not to criticise people for their wrong doings, it does not make me a better person to criticise others. It is nice to give love and be loved in return.
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Life is Short and to make the most of it why waste it with trivialities
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To be in touch with nature and to listen to good music that has a soothing effect on the mind and spirit.
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Do not procrastinate.
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To live life like it was your last.
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Prayer is most powerful.
Published: September 25, 2007   
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