If you were to ask most Dating Coaches what''s the most interesting part of their job... many of them would tell you that
it''s the fact that men simply always seem to come to them asking the wrong questions.
Ok... We just went a bit too far. Let''s backtrack a little. So you say you want to know what are the best topics to talk to women about?
Here''s the answer:
There is no such thing as "best topics to talk to women about".
The reason is on several counts:
- Different women are interested in different things - What you talk about depends on the situation you are in, where you met this woman, what your interest is in her... etc... etc...
And here is the real kicker! What you talk about only account to no more than 5% of where this situations leads you. Of course, I am assuming here that the reason you are reading this article is because you want to increase your conversational skills with women, with the goal of improving your "chances" of "getting with" this woman.
Well here''s the "secret sauce" that many are unaware of: The main factor on whether a
conversation leads to a "successful outcome" is how fun your conversation was, and how fun of a
conversationalist you are.
So how do you become a fun conversationalist? Isn''t that why one looks for fun topics to talk about in the first place? Yes! And this is what I mentioned about the little pet peeve of most dating coaches. Whenever men want to achieve a certain goal in dating, they always come looking for a tool that they don''t even need in the first place.
In order to be perceived and become a fun conversationalist you need to be in a fun, playful and interesting mood. If you think about it, weren''t there instances in your life where you talked to a woman and you knew EXACTLY the right things to talk about? You knew exactly where and how to lead the conversation and you seemed to effortlessly hit every single topic that made her think "wow, this guy gets me". What was different at that time. Did you have a good "list" of topics?
I can bet the difference was that you just happened to be in a different mood. So what is this magical mood that allows us to naturally and effortlessly come up with just the right things to talk about, and how do you get it?
Well... you can''t get it. The reason you can''t get it is that you already have it. We are all born with an innate instinct of knowing how to flirt, the only difference is that some of us have had more layers of suppression put on top of it.
"Ok you''re waxing philosophical now! What does that mean!"
It simply means that if you remove certain barriers to being extremely relaxed, calm and confident around women, you will achieve "the mood" by default. The best way to remove these barriers, believe it or not is simply to talk to as many women as possible until you are at a point where you live in this mood, it''s something that you "are".