FALLING IN LOVE"In
life, love is never planned nor does it happen for a
reason. But when
the love is real, it becomes your plan for life and your reason for
living"There was a time in my life I became afraid to fall in love. Because every time I fell in love, I got hurt. I thought maybe that''s why it''s
called "''falling" in love. I would give my all, loving deeply and
wholeheartedly. It would be a truly emotional, extremely euphoric experience. I would be dreaming about the object of my affection all
day and all night, imagining good time together, thinking of what I can
do or buy for him to show how much I care.I would feel light as a
feather, energized and excited, literally blooming with the joy I feel
inside. Then somehow things would go wrong and my whole world would
crush. Disappointment.Resentment. Anger. Pain. Why? Can we not love without feeling pain? is it really a price to pay for all the happiness we
feel when we are in love?Should we just
accept that because we love, we
risk getting hurt? It was only after many years of soul- searching and
reading inspirational wittings that I realized that we can love
without getting hurt.Only recently did I understand what unconditional
love is all about.Love is one of the most powerful forces in the
universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being.Love
is the source of all our comfort and contentment.It is the precious
gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can
indeed preserve its true meaning, we love to the fullest and be happy
the rest of our lives. Accept that other people express love
differently.How do you express love? You say "I love you" three
times a day, kiss and embrace as often as you can, you never forget
anniversaries, you always prepare his favorite dishes. How does he
express his love? He rarely says" I love you", he seldom kisses you, he
forgets your birthday and he doesn''t know how to cook.But he worked
overtime, walks the dog, takes out the garbage, takes you to movies,
and calls you "honey" He probably loves you more than you can imagine,
he just shows it differently. If you can accept that then you will have
a healthier perspective of your relationship. Derive happiness from
giving love. When you love, do it because you want to.There is an
indescribable joy in loving.Just give it. And cherish satisfaction in
having given someone something of your self. It''s like like giving a
gift.Whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving.Love
without expecting anything in return.This is where pain comes in...
when you demand something in return for the love you give.You are
sitting your self out for disappointment because love cannot always be
reciprocal.Love between two people can never be of the same
intensity at the same time and place. No matter how much your partner
loves you, she will never be able to fill all your needs of all the
times.And you will be in the worst situation if you believe you should
love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. You will
be waiting in misery forever. Love now. The past is gone and the
future is just a dream. All of yesterday''s aches and pains, as well as
the love and laughter, are mere memories. Let them go. fantasies and worries are for the future that may never come. Don''t dwell on them.
Live now. Give love now. Do it now and enjoy it now.That is the secret
of genuine contentment.Throw away those destructive habit.When you
insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you
always have to be right, flexible, dynamic, and evolving. Leave room
for change and interaction.Allow for new behavior and learning
experiences.When we welcour lives, we open
ourselves to sharing more love affection and less frustration and pain.
Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. I
agree. Especially when we have always believed that love is give and
take. But try believing that love is simply giving. And you will be
surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you"In
life, love is never planned nor does it happen for a reason. But when
the love is real, it becomes your plan for life and your reason for
living"