Lay down in a comfortable position in your bed.
Turn off the overhead lights, and turn on a
soothing, soft nightlight.
Turn on some nice music. A good song for this is "Into the Ocean" by Blue October) or something with soothing vocals and violin/piano ("How To Save A Life" and "Look After You" by The Fray) Turn this on quietly in the background.
Take a deep breath in, extending your diaphragm (this may hurt in you''ve been
crying for prolonged periods of time, because your
muscles are tense, but the purpose of this is to completely
relax) and slowly breath out, even if it''s shaky. Repeat.
Once you''re breathing is fairly normal, try to find where most of the
tension is in your
body (stomach? back? etc.) Make a conscious effort to relax this part of your body. Try this to get them to relax. Tense up the muscles in this area, hold for the count of 5, and relax. This should leave this are with no tension.
Realize that life has it''s ups and downs, and that crying isn''t a bad thing to do, but that after a while, crying can actually hurt your body, so it''s important to try to relax.
Comfort yourself with the thought that eventually, all this will be a memory, and it won''t be as painful for you to think of.
Don''t feel bad about talking to a family member about your problem.
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