Losing to win
Have you ever played a game to lose? And at the end of it feel glad about it? Sounds strange but I play such games almost everyday. Once in a while when my opponent is in benevolent mood he allows me to win without any fuss.
I am learning to lose all games which I had perfected with great efforts in my childhood, but let me tell you it takes an equally great effort to learn to lose too!
For instance Carom, all those calculations and laws of physics I applied to get each piece into the pockets have to be forgotten, and now the striker has to strike at random taking care that no piece goes into the pockets .If by chance I happen to pocket the red piece and the cover too, my opponent calls it a day and packs up! The red piece is his property and there is no way I can take it.
And the game of ludo? I cannot throw the dice and get a six for promptly my opponent declares it was a foul throw, the angle of the dice was wrong or I have to throw it once again, so that he can believe that I am actually capable of getting a six .And when it comes to eliminating my piece , he is merciless but when it is my turn I have to pretend I have not noticed his piece, his eyed shine and he even givers a crooked smile .
My opponent is learning to play chess that too very fast . He got interested in the game through the computer but the computer is merciless and beats him hands down! He has declared that its no fun playing with that ‘fellow’ because he finishes the game too fast and you cannot even say anything to him, so he has caught hold of me and same story is repeated. I have to lose. But this time, I said enough is enough, he has to lose too. So it was check mate most of the time. My opponent refused to take it from me, his mother, how could she be so ruthless? He bawled and brought house down. I had to give in and lost to him once again but all the time teaching him the nuances of the game. But I do notice a change in him. He now makes a conscious effort to beat me and as long as he is putting in an effort to win I do not mind losing from my six years old son. At the end of it all, shining naughty eyes and wide victorious grin of her child makes a mother’s day worth living! All mothers would agree with me. Fathers too?