Japanese create course to teach
husbands to say ''''I love you''''
The BBC Brazil
An association created by
Japanese teaches the
husbands to say "I love you" to their wives, and establish rules to demonstrate devotion to partner in public and at home.
The Nihon Aisaika Kyokai (Association of Maridos Devotados of Japan) was formed in 2004 and counts as members 150 men in middle age.
The national promotes events where husbands express their religion in public, a move that the authority defines as able to "work for world peace" as well as help "preserve the environment."
Events of this type have been made three
years ago in Hibiya Park, one of the largest of Tokyo, and a planting of cabbage city of Tsumagoi, nearly 150 km away from the Japanese capital, which is the seat of the body.
"At the time of the samurai, the man who had more success with women was not what I said is love," says the founder of the association, Kiyotaka Yamana. "The Japanese believe that there is more value in not say I love you than to express this sentiment. Only that, in practice, this does not work.
Rules
One of the main initiatives of the association is called slow life (life slowly, in free translation), which provides five rules that the husband can easily follow at home.
Contentar the wife assuming for themselves at least one of the tasks of home, expressing gratitude, heard the news that the wife has to rely on its day-to-day, get rid of the sense of male vanity and excessive concern with appearances and look directly in the eyes of the wife to talk to her are the rules established by Nihon.
Moreover, the group designated the date of January 31 as the "Day of Beloved Wife," when the husband must "show in practice their love for returning home at 8 o''''clock in the evening, dining with family and telling the woman how he likes her for what she is doing for himself and for his family. "
The founder, Kiyotaka Yamana, 46 years old, who has career in the advertising industry and today works in promotions of events, to which was "hooked on work" and gave little attention to family life.
Yamana recalls that one day his wife confronted the saying that it does not matter with her and that the two never conversavam. Shortly after the couple were divorciou and terminated one marriage of eight years.
Four years ago, the former advertising is married again, given the change in attitude.
He said the BBC Brazil that the Japanese man not normally say "I love you" to his wife in the hope that, even without hearing these words, the wife will understand what he feels.
According to the creator of the movement, the current Japanese culture offers no more elements favorable to traditional silent attitude and, in big cities, the time that the husband can stay at home is too short.
"Previously the family had gathered meals and had more dialogue. Today, with less and less time, the use of words is most needed. Many husbands do not want to go home and end the day in the bar, drinking and chatting with colleagues. In some cases neither the wives want their return, "explains Yamana.
"It is that the Japanese man must be connected to an organization, but many do not like either of the company or of the environment in the home. End Then if refuge with a group of colleagues in the bar," account.
Divorce
Data from the Ministry of Health in Japan show that the rate of divorces in the country increased by 26.5% in 10 years.
The number of divorces among married couples for 20 years or m