Conversation is a part of our daily lives -
while you are travelling, working or are at home. The first impression on
meeting a new person is generally based on how you strike a conversation.
There are some basic ground rules to have
an interesting talkathon. Many a times, people wonder why they are least
approached at a party or an event, or why someone tunes off in the midst of a
conversation with them. A good conversation does not require showing off your
talents or bragging about your new car. It has to be an interesting topic to
discuss and definitely not one-sided.
While you constantly look forward to expressing
your opinions on issues, avoid imposing it on the other person. You do not have
to accept everything that they say, but make sure to respect their viewpoints. All
of us look for validation and approval during interactions with others, but the
key to a good conversation is to validate the other person. People like to be
asked about themselves. Conversations should contain more of ’you’, ‘your’ and
less of ‘I’, and ‘my’. Take a genuine interest in people.
Good listening skills are the key to a good
conversation. Be mentally alert and ask questions frequently to express your interest.
Maintaining eye contact and a genuine smile can work wonders. If the topic
being discussed is not your cup of tea, subtly change the topic. Avoid judging
people on the basis of their clothes or appearance. This can hamper your
conversation as you have already formed a pre-conceived notion about the other
To become a good conversationalist, you
must also have a positive body language. If you appear too defensive, rigid or
unhappy, the opposite person may hesitate to initiate a conversation. It is
also good to understand the other person’s body language. Never answer phone
calls or let other distractions interrupt a conversation, unless it is an
In short, just be your polite self and be
assured you will strike a chord!