Last year was like living in hell for Fatima,she could not really enjoy herself,actually,Ibrahim was giving her a tough time.''Don''t
you know it is time for food?''Ibrahim would yell at her.Fatima however was confused,she was confused because she did not know what to do.Personally,I had discussed with Fatima this issue,''Sometimes trying to please him would cause more
problems,'' Fatima had said.
Should we blame
aggressive people for being aggressive?Certainly,we shouldn''t.Temperament is an internal thing, but there is a way we can blend it so that it does not affect people around us.The following tips should be followed, I gave them to Fatima,she used them,so you can.
1.Understand that as a temperament thing,that is the way he is.
2.Whenever he gets annoyed,do not say a word.This is because even sometimes when we are not wrong,aggressive people still find something wrong about us.All they want to do is to argue,argument that may lead to a spit on our face,one that may generate a slap,and since you are not slow mentally, you could be pushed to an extent of returning the slap.Therefor the best thing to do here is ''keep is low.''
3.Even when he is wrong, all you need to do here is firstly,accept that you are wrong.This will make him cool down,since in his mind you are at fault.
4.Keep saying you are sorry.
5.Tell his friend or his girlfriend; his girlfriend should know him better than you do.Sometimes,he might not like you telling anybody of his acts.If this is the case,then still keep it low,telling his parents or relatives would help with the assurance that they wont mention your name.
6.Always ask him of what he needs,let him know you can afford some things.This will let him trust you and remain humble to you,even when he is angry again.
7.Try tell him some little problems you have,however,not all your problems.This also will let him open up to you when he has problems.
9.Tell him more about yourself,at least let him know little about you,this is also important.
10.In conclusion,don''t forget,always keep it low.Tell him what he did yesterday is at present affecting you negatively.If he shouts at you,the you will keep it low again.