In countries that followed the patrialistik system that father more dominant indeed often referred in the culture and religion.
Also indeed arranged by man that any decision should be processed first if it came from a husband or a men as a decision maker. Whereas the woman, who often was connected in his nature as the weak creature and needed the protection, finally only received the role as the colleague who only had few rights as the determiners, but she filled with various obligations
In several culture orders of the available culture in Indonesia. Gotten by examples where the woman only as a second gender. For example in one of ethnic group in Papua that permitted the men married totalling possibly the woman, depended on the number of pig numbers that was owned by him. Or the importance of the clan continuer in the Batak culture that followed the Patrilineal system/the line of the descendants of the father. Whereas mother only was regarded as the immigrant in father family. The male child was then regarded as the child who was valuable because of bringing the clan and the surname Then that, all the children who were born will use the clan that was the same as his father. And found so many unfair treat to the women, when she born the child but has no right to gave her name on the child. The other fact, if the women could not give a son to her husband, then with all the heart willingness was recommended to allow his husband to marry the other woman in order to get the male child. Connected with the meaning of poligamy which has wrong meaning and always put women as a victim.
Year by year the situation must be accepted, in undertook and was made accustomed to becoming the matter that was normal in order to revere the customother and traditions, that when being violated it seems will bring in karma. At least, such was the wrong doctrine that must be received by women who were forced to be silent submitted to “Comfort Zone” where unproperly must become part of their life hereditary. And finally, the woman until this was still becoming the marginal group in various foundations of the life. Although equality reverberations gender increasingly hard was expressed in any hemisphere. Even though the women community that was increasingly brave expressed the right and the equality of the life with the men, but in fact not be easy eroded the doctrine the culture that already adhered to one package to the personal conviction respectively the individual. The collisions occasionally produced dilematis special to the pattern thought especially for the woman dibelahan the east world that still traped to the cultural prison and the religion. Nature as the wife and the role as a mother then became the contribution for the limitations in the aim The life of one culture that definitely became the doctrine died that wanted to not want to have to be obeyed. Through to thinking independent that indeed must be created by each woman based on the experience and personal observation, then attracted the conclusion concerning true or mistakenly without being affected by confusion of many opinions. Received very round all information in the form of advice from parents even the ancestors, indeed still was becoming one hindrance that when being forced in reality that actually, certainly increasingly will be seen like oil with water. Will never have the mix that the harmony. Sharpened the capacity himself, believed and proud in anything the talent that was owned by us indeed needed one greatness of the spirit around still the narrowness of the public's space that was available for the woman. ’trial-error’ on all courage raised the opinion and dared to take the risk of the refusal even the banishment from women personally. Because in fact, still many of woman that already chose the safe and willing to live in the framework of conventional thinking route that definitely.
And all needed the long struggle, steep even climbing. Each female individual must have the determination and the good spirit in an indvidu manner or the group. Because of the woman where and anything the form and his identity, was the human noose that must get the most appropriate place with in whole life without yield and always becoming the side that was sacrificed on behalf of the customs and traditions and the religion even. The harmony and the harmonisation to stand at attention between nature, the culture and the pattern thought independent as must continued to be invested, in applied in living and definitely daring to ward off all the social risks and flexibility as a woman and the individual who was independent as well as had equality with the all human being in this world.
This article always asked all the woman anywhere was, to become ”Independent Thinker” far from the traditional shackle and the social predicate that were conventional in the community. And that more important was as patner that had the voice and the right that were same in the balance and the success of a man