What is that you have to do for you to be able to get a life partner or a mate? So many questions have been asked about this topic. Who is the right mate for me? When will I get him/her? How am I going to know that he\she is the one? Where am I going to get her? How long am I suppose to wait? What should I do to be at the right place to receive my mate? These are questions, which bother every young person, adults and some single adults when they think of a marriage or when they decide it is the right time for them to have a love relationship. With so many people, countries, races, nations, cultures it is hard to have a clear picture of how one chooses his/her life partner.
Many have device means of choosing a life partner. I remember myself I wrote down all the qualities I was looking for in a partner and I wanted her to be at least 3 years or more years younger, to be a Christian, to be participate in sport and educated, . This did not really work for me because when I felt in love with my wife it was only for love I’ve other things were just a bonus. Some of us have chosen partners on the wrong reasons like wealth, beauty, status and lust. Such marriages might not stand the test hence; they can end up in a divorcé.
Marriage is a sacred and holy matrimonial which was sanctioned by our Creator so it should also serve Him more than anything. Our marriage should be unity that is in the path to fulfil God’s purpose in this world. Our marriages should be an instrument of love, peace, and joy in this hurting world. It should be a perfect and ideal example to the world that depicts the true love relationship between our Creator and man. It goes without saying that He should direct us in choosing a partner.
Being single is an important time to prepare us for marriage. It can also be a time to experience a closer communion with your Creator. As we seek God to cleanse us of the world and help us become the kind of wife or husband that would bless someone, we will soon find that we are not lonely. First, the Lord would begin using us to bless others; then we will find we are content in Him. Eventually, in God's plan and timing, He will bless us with a wonderful mate so that both lives can be a witness for Him. We believe if a marriage cannot glorify the Lord, then it would be better to remain alone. There are worse things than being alone. One of these is to be out of God's will by compromising and marrying
Marriage is the second major choice we make in our lives, and we should never enter into it without much prayer. To rush into a marriage can be disastrous. The most important decision of our lives, of course, is our decision to follow the Lord. This decision is not a one-time declaration, but a daily determination to follow Jesus above all. If we allow the emotional to dominate and control our lives, we become more susceptible to the enemy leading us astray through someone. This area of the flesh should be brought under the Lord's subjection so that Satan does not get the advantage to destruct us from reaching our purpose in life and consequently destroying our lives and ministries. Many have failed in marriages and some are miserable because they made a haste decision.
We find this true throughout the Bible, Solomon's heathen wives led him into idolatry. Samson lost his eyes because of a woman, Delilah. David committed murder because of passion for Bath Sheba.