We generally suspect that for our ills and miseries, outside factors are responsible. We see enemies where there are none. We lose our peace of mind.
We can be happy only if we drive out the enemies within. They are broadly faulting others, hate, jealousy, unnecessary fear.
The greatest sin of a man is finding fault in others and over looking his own faults. We derive pleasure in faulting others. We make others responsible for our miseries. In this process we never try to look within for our own faults and rectify them. We overlook our own faults and shortcomings. That is the reason for our restless ness. This quality of man is his worst enemy. We tend to justify our own mistakes and actions. We tend to feel that we are doing the right things always.
Unless we learn how to be happy within, we can never be happy.
· Keep YOU before I in mind before you speak or act.
· Then what should we do to be happy?
· Stop finding fault in others.
· Find out your own faults and list them.
· Try to rectify your own faults.
· Try to speak reason.
· Have the courage to admit your own shortcomings.
· Have the patience to listen to others before you speak.
Hate is the one enemy of man within. One should drive out hate within to win the world. What is hate? Hate manifests as our external response to internal perception. But our perception is wrong many times. When we hate a person, we hate him for certain of his actions or qualities. We never look at that person in to- to. We never try to see his point of view. We never understand that he too may have acted based on a wrong perception about you. It is okay to hate a person for his action or quality but only if your hatred is based on reality and not what your mind perceives right. Before judging a person we should take into account his total personality. We should make a checklist of what is good and bad in him. We should make a checklist of what is good and bad in us too. When we impartially analyze the checklist, we realize that neither the person whom we hate nor ourselves are free from defects.
We realize that we hated the total person unnecessarily and that he too got valid points and concerns justifying his actions. Suppose we hate a person because, he took money from you and failed to return. We should before hating him analyze what made him do this to you. What circumstances made him fail in his obligations? May be he got into genuine problems. May be he is waiting for favorable conditions to return money. No body in this world will be interested in turning bad and getting hated by all. Think of the good things he did for you earlier. We tend to see only one point that of his failure to fulfill his obligation. In this process we over look the good in him and magnify his bad action and spoil our health. Once we make a checklist, generally we have a better perception of the other person’s actions. We out right don’t condemn him. We will talk to him why he failed to fulfill his obligation. When we talk with love, even the other person will realize that he should act in such a way that never hurts you. We never know our faults. We commit so many mistakes that can be faulted by others. We ignore our mistakes and highlight others. This tendency will not help us at all. Let us stop finding fault with others. Let us stop magnifying the faults in others. Let us realize our own shortcomings. Let us rectify our own actions. Let us not hurt others. Let us find peace within with which we find peace in the world we live. We should win war within before we attempt to win wars outside. Then happiness that eludes us will be near to us. It will reside in us so that we can never be unhappy.