Old age – series of tragic moments
Child hood merges into adulthood with lot of understanding, learning, pains, gains,
fun, frolic, bring pleasure, cultivate hope, vision of life, imagination , minor or major
emotional set back time and again.
Renewed enthusiasm, love, affection and dreaming coupled with stream of get going, pushes and pulls of family, society, peers, friends and so called duties, learning over a period make the life worth living.
Pleasant and unpleasant sensations coupled with accumulation of impressions in mind and bodies do bring restlessness, but realization of short-lived sensations is also well experienced time and again.
Researches and
experience have shown that every good moment passes, as is true for bad moments. Let that go. Cycle will complete itself. Dark patches will pass by and bright phase will replace and so on. Many Scholars and spiritual researchers have suggested, not holding either. You will have to undergo both, may be simultaneously or one by one.
When we are involved in worldly affairs, in any capacity, involvement has to happen. So will be affected by pains or gains. However either of these sensations of pain or gain cannot be done away. Let them come and go.
It is said, those are mature the most, who are able to accept the phenomenon. Accept gracefully or crying –or celebration remains one’s choice. However, awareness of this phenomenon will enlighten us to accept both situations gracefully.
All this can happen; when we are fit enough to grasp, experience, make and feel realization. Becoming involved and then witnessing the happening, the mechanism will enable one to grow up and stand the plus and minus both.
In old age, when we have gained, experienced for whole life, undergone all stormy and pleasant wheathers, our skin tells the story of body. Disorientation, loss of memory though tell about state of brain, but maturity, it has gained does not get reflected easily, unless one is reading it very carefully.
Old get deprived of care, love, affection, and attention primarily because they are still looking for these all, and are dependent on nearer and dearers. They are at mercy. Sometime, may be they are demanding directly or indirectly in reciprocity of their showering of love and affection.
But priorities of relatives and friends remain changing. So long as seniors are not dependent for emotional or physical support, they are able to command due affection and love. May be respect too. The moment, dependence starts—who has time to pay attention, serve? Dependence brings experience of life.
Helpless gestures, eyes looking for, searching for love, care, affection, may be kind or kind of respect are heartening and breathe taking. But most Old do experience humiliation at the hands of family members, friends, youngsters, neighbours, relatives and all.
Most of the old age symptoms are physical impairment, disabilities in addition to emotional set back due to helplessness and no support forthcoming.
I asked my mother when she was not well and crying due to physical trouble, `` what do you advise me, what do I learn from your experience of life. She said- May God do not make you dependent.``
Ever since, I came in to senses, she has been blessing me for Long life, saying that May you live for 100 years. And now she says- no, live till you are not dependent.
I understand, this is not only physical or economic dependence—it is emotional dependence as well.
We are growing with learning and experiences, but fall flat, as you become dependent.
An urge for love, affection, respect, fulfillment of physical requirements, comforts will last till death. And old age is not the right time to abandon either, whereas you go on becoming dependent with time.
A lot to share more,
ashwani