The first thing to be understood is what ego is. A child is born.A child is born without any knowledge, any consciousness of his ownself. And when a child is born the first thing he becomes aware of isnot himself; the first thing he becomes aware of is the other. It isnatural, because the eyes open outwards, the hands touch others, theears listen to others, the tongue tastes food and the nose smells theoutside. All these senses open outwards. That is what birth means. Birth means coming into this world, the worldof the outside. So when a child is born, he is born into this world. Heopens his eyes, sees others. 'Other' means the thou. He becomes awareof the mother first. Then, by and by, he becomes aware of his own body.That too is the other, that too belongs to the world. He is hungry andhe feels the body; his need is satisfied, he forgets the body. This is how a child grows. First he becomes aware of you, thou, other,and then by and by, in contrast to you, thou, he becomes aware ofhimself.This awareness is a reflected awareness. He is not aware of who he is.He is simply aware of the mother and what she thinks about him. If shesmiles, if she appreciates the child, if she says, "You are beautiful,"if she hugs and kisses him, the child feels good about himself. Now anego is born.Through appreciation, love, care, he feels he is good, he feels he isvaluable, he feels he has some significance. A center is born But this center is a reflected center. It is not his real being. Hedoes not know who he is; he simply knows what others think about him.And this is the ego: the reflection, what others think. If nobodythinks that he is of any use, nobody appreciates him, nobody smiles,then too an ego is born: an ill ego; sad, rejected, like a wound;feeling inferior, worthless. This too is the ego. This too is areflection.First the mother - and mother means the world in the beginning. Thenothers will join the mother, and the world goes on growing. And themore the world grows, the more complex the ego becomes, because manyothers' opinions are reflected. The ego is an accumulated phenomenon, a by-product of living withothers. If a child lives totally alone, he will never come to grow anego. But that is not going to help. He will remain like an animal. Thatdoesn't mean that he will come to know the real self, no.The real can be known only through the false, so the ego is a must. Onehas to pass through it. It is a discipline. The real can be known onlythrough the illusion.
You cannot know the truth directly. First youhave to know that which is not true. First you have to encounter theuntrue. Through that encounter you become capable of knowing the truth.If you know the false as the false, truth will dawn upon you.Ego is a need; it is a social need, it is a social by-product. Thesociety means all that is around you - not you, but all that is aroundyou. All, minus you, is the society. And everybody reflects. You willgo to school and the teacher will reflect who you are. You will be infriendship with other children and they will reflect who you are. Byand by, everybody is adding to your ego, and everybody is trying tomodify it in such a way that you don't become a problem to the society.They are not concerned with you. They are concerned with the society.Society is concerned with itself, and that's how it should be. They are not concerned that you should become a self-knower. They areconcerned that you should become an efficient part in the mechanism ofthe society. You should fit into the pattern. So they are trying togive you an ego that fits with the society. They teach you morality.Morality means giving you an ego which will fit with the society. Ifyou are immoral, you will always be a misfit somewhere or other. That'swhy we put criminals in the prisons - not that they have done somethingwrong, not that by putting them in the prisons we are going to improvethem, no. They simply don't fit. They are troublemakers. They havecertain types of which the society doesn't approve. If thesociety approves, everything is goodFor the best sites on meditation ,yoga pranayama and manytopicsuseful for your day to day requirements of lifego to the linkhttp://www.myonlybiz.comJoin my group to get daily insight to gethealth, wealth and happiness.join our depression_support_meditation yahoo groupclick here to join our group to get daily meditation tiphttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/depression_support_meditation/join