What we really want? This is a question that many times is more difficult of being answered of what it seems. How many of
us already we did not have the
sensation of that we wanted with ardor some thing and when possessing what as much we wanted, the desire if goes and the proper gotten thing loses its interest. Clearly that nor always this happens, but for which reason will be that we see people to fight the entire life to get good economic position, to have a steady affective life, many friends, and, when gets everything this… enters in process of deep depresão? What of it has made a mistake in these cases? I will below try to develop some (s) reflections regarding this subject, but I want to say that before any thing, I do not have the pretension to show to magical solutions for any of the enormous afflictions human beings… In first place, we need saberse we have a clear idea of the functioning of our will and our desire. E, without the lesser shade of doubt the reply is that many times we do not have this knowledge. Generally we think that the desire commands the will, and pledge all our efforts in the accomplishment of
desires that appear, and in certain cases if they become so strong that they breach the border between desire and necessity, arriving to consume the carrier of such desires in enormous anxiety and suffering so that this desire is satisfied. For times, desires as: “to be rich” they command our efforts in way that exist person that abdicates of its youth, of the conviviality with the family, the leisure and the proper effort in estafantes and repetitive hours of working. Here it is the desire commanding the will, making with that the individual has supported enormous agruras until being satisfied. But here it is that the desire is something voluble and very changeable, and many times at the same moment where he is satisfied, we have the sensation of that our conquest is not enough. Nothing more natural, the desire only exists while expression of the lack of something, in impelling in order to direct our will route what in them it seems optimum target. But it will be that the desire always comandaa will Nor always if can say that yes. Let us see the cases where the citizen suppresses its desires in order to increase its force of will more each time (for example: monges Buddhist that they look for to aplacar the desires by means of meditation). For which reason some obtain to discipline its will and to reduce the sufferings oriunods of the desire and others not? The reply it is simple, but of difficult execution. What we want in the truth nao is to satisfy definitive desires lesser that appear on to the things that we possess. What we want exactly is to have the sensation of that we are permanently in search of an objective. Only that when seeing of maken a mistake form this objective, a reached time the apparent goal, the desire adds so that another search if initiates. About the reality, we think that we are reaching a purpose but in the reality what we are always making is in placing in movement the route to some thing, and this is our deep will. Clearly it is that the movement of search of something is of we ourselves is placed almost as a programming in us, but on the other hand, will be that what we search in our lives in cases as the ones that menionei (of the wealth, for example) is what we really desire? How many times we long for to be happy and we do not have the lesser idea of what it can be the happiness, and if we have some idea, will be that it supports much time will have questioned itself (for example: will be happy I if I will have an car)? These interrogations in take them deeper of what we can imagine, going to a dimension abissaldentro of we ourselves. In my opinion, what it must be searched are not the external things we (the love of that let us like, the career, the money), therefore all these factors, beyond not depending directly on us, are par excellence changeable (for example: how many richnesses in second hand had not scrumbled the nothing), but yes, the infinite development of we ourselves: of our character, our intelligence and our moral conscience. Without no shade of doubt mesmoscomo is possible to indicate this continuous sensation of relative well-being to the development of us an element that in places them at least the way of the happiness, therefore on factors to the intrapessoal development is steady, durable, and remains with the person until its death. For this reason I believe that inverting the way of the search (internal development instead of external elements) the happiness can be lived of much more full form, in way that the gotten conquests will not be lost and the desire will be under control without in affecting them and them to bring sufferings.