The Personal Life Coach, Beth Densmore, who wrote this article, introduced two sad losses in her life, talked
about her own experience and gave some hints on how to deal with grieving.
Densmore wrote that grieving could be over a lost job, lost love or the most heartbreaking, the death of someone who loved dearly.
When someone feels any loss, it seems he/she will never be normal again, in addition to other emotional disturbances like:
sadness, abandonment and anger. Each one of us tends to deal with it in his/her own distinct way.
Densmore''s first loss was the death of her son. Her husband and she had their dead son cremated. With deep thinking of what her son used to love, she remembered that the character of Mickey Mouse was living in her son''s heart. So she bought a plash Mickey Mouse doll and put her son''s ashes inside, as long as she wondered what to do with the cremains.
7 months later, her husband died, and got cremated too. At that day, she new exactly what to do with his cremains. In his old days, he gave her a Teddy Bear, again, she put his ashes in it. She was able to hug the doll every time she felt grief. And that saved her many crying nights.
In first Summer, Densmore, her daughter and her granddaughter decided to go in a family vacation. So they rented a beach home for a week. When they were packing their luggage, the daughter asked her mother to bring her dad (Fred) as well. Of course she meant the Teddy Bear with her father''s ashes.
As for Mickey Mouse doll, the granddaughter stressed that her uncle should come to the vacation also, although he didn''t like the ocean. The five of them spent a wonderfully therapeutic vacation.
By using this approach, Densmore lived many years later with her all members of the family around, with no mentioned grieving.
But this is not necessarily be the suitable approach for others. Grief is individual and must be dealt with individually.
Find your own way to overcome your grief, never think of what the world might think.
The writer concluded that, if you know that your loved one would be okay with your special path of grieving, then feel good about it and do it.
Besides of what may help in Bereavement, one can read as many books, articles and magazines as he/she can. Or may contact a life coach who specializes in
transition, grief and change. This kind of coach can give you support, inspiration and motivation to overcome the situation.