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“All we
need is love.” Myth or not? Since love
does
seem to
be able to overcome anything and everything, at
least
on
television and at the movies, this seems like a
reality.
It has to be “love at first sight” in order to
work
long-
term. Myth or truth? While this can be true for
some,
it
certainly doesn’t have to be for all couples in
long-
term
relationships. Many
people grow together over
time.
Since practically anyone can learn the nuts and
bolts
of
relationship building, focusing on some basic
techniques
that can be learned is a must. The main ones,
in no
particular order, are:
- Understand your-self.
Understand yourself. What is your personality.
You
may
be
surprised. Some people live for a
long time and
never
come
to understand or even realize why they are the
way
they
are! And why is this important? It determines
how
you
look
at the world, how you will interpret the events
occurring
in your life, and WHO YOU ARE will help your
partner
determine how to react to YOU!
- Rapport: Develop rapport with others well.
Now let’s take a quick peak at the basics of
developing
rapport with others. In a nutshell, what it
takes
is to
ask
questions, have a positive, open attitude,
encour
age
an
open exchange of communications (both verbal
and
unspoken),
listen to verbal and unspoken communications
and
share
positive feedback.
- Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues
and
conflicts without too much friction
How do you handle conflicts? If you can put
your
ego
aside
pretty much and try to keep friction to a
minimum,
your
relationships should move along fairly
smoothly.
Where
you
feel disagreement, if you can “agree” to
disagree
on
certain things with the other party involved,
that
will
help, too. In short, conflict resolution means
to
pretty
much deal with others as you would want them to
deal
with
you.
Once true love is found, people live happily
ever
after.
Truth or myth? Well, it will definitely not be
a
perfect,
problem-less journey. However, you definitely
can
live
happily ever after with the love of your life,
if
only
you
will arm yourself with the right relationship
skills
and
learn relationship mastery whole heartedly.
Trust me, this is within your power. It is your
destiny
to
draw in your highest and best mate, if you have
decided
to.
Is there magic to what makes some relationships
last
longer than others? Maybe. Do some people just sit
back
and
sulk, while others seem to
let life go by right
over
their
heads and problems? It sure seems so. Or maybe it’s
just
that some people learn secrets of success from
their
grandparents or other relatives or friends. And
since
the
latter is probably more accurate, here are some
tried
and
true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy
relationships.
1. REFRESH – Take time to look back, refresh your
memories
and share what brought you together. Especially
when
times
are difficult, lean back and rely on these old
memories
as
your foundation and glue yourselves back together
with
them
(not literally, of course!)
2. DATES – Keep dating each other. Even if life
seems
too
busy, meet at the end of the evening for something
light
and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record
it
if
necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre.
3. FUN – Couple tend to have fun on dates, then get
married
and too serious. Lightenn up. Head to Yahoo
Games (off
Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of card
or
other games. Or head to a local rental shop and
rent an
Xbox or other game player and some games.
4. FORGET – No need to “always” remember the bad
things
that happened during an argument. Actively “forget”
sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up.
Go
for
it!
5. SPACE – Give each other some space. Either you
trust
or
you don’t. Get on with life, though. People need
time
alone
and time with their mates and other friends. Be
sure to
give and take your fair share of space.
6. DISAGREE – Agree that it’s okay to disagree on
some
issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a
new
religion or political movement just to appease both
of
you.
You don’t HAVE to agree on everything. And you
won’t.
And
that’s okay.
7. MEMORIES – Make some together. Enjoy special
moments,
special anniversary dates and events. No need to be
elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching
a
hot
air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you
might
schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual
event.
Collect postcards with balloons on the, playing
cards,
toss
pillows…over time it becomes a theme.
So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps
to
improve your relationships and let life’s problems
magically pass by while you hold on to your
relationship
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