What Is Anger?
There are many feelings of emotions, and anger is one of those. Feeling happy, sad, depressed, blissful, peaceful, passive, and so on are some feelings that either good or bad, but anger is such an emotional phase that can lead you to extreme situation. Never be angry is not the right suggestion; the right suggestion is to release the anger in right way, so that it does not become a means of harm. The pot of the boiling water if covered with a lid then a time will come the lid would be thrown away by the water pressure; the same if happens to us, we would face dire consequences without doubt. So, anger should not be given too much importance and should be vent away peacefully as soon as possible.
The causes of anger are endless – the fact is that one can get angry from anything. It depends on the way a particular human being is. It can come from tiredness, difficult work, late in the office, scolding, frustration out of defeat, lack of possessions, and even from trivial matters. The list of causes would be really an infinite one if one tries to make a list. There are some people, who become angry from very minor issues; all depend on how you look at the life. Therefore, instead of finding the cause, we should rather find the remedies more. By telling so, I am not stressing that one should not find the cause of anger. It would be excellent if one can learn not to become angry in the first place.
Once anger sets in, its presence is immediately known from the body, behavior, face, and instant actions. It is easy to know when someone is angry. It is always better to vent out the anger. If anger is suppressed deep inside the self, then health problems may occur. Controlling anger should not be misunderstood with suppression. Controlling means the realization of anger and act in such manners that others would not be affected by your anger. Anger arising from other people can be figure out by analyzing the situation afterwards when away from the person. Understanding other’s feeling is necessary to avoid anger arising from them.
The next part is what to do when angry. Better to admit than to accuse find excuse and that helps in tackling the situation meaningfully. Controlling is the right term to learn in fuming situations. For hot temper people, the counseling is a good option. Known people’s advices do not work because they are taken into granted. Professional counselor’s instructions become useful in understanding the tricks of controlling. Before going to professional, other people like teachers, parents, elders, and even a close friend could be discussed for help. The more we talk about our anger, the chances of getting rid of it becomes brighter. Below is a list of things one can try when in anger.
Count to 10, give or get a hug, start doing exercise, play a video game or engage in solving puzzles, start singing, try to recollect good memories, talk to someone close, are just some acts one can do. The problem is that one has to remember that he is in the process of throwing away his anger. Therefore, determination and sincerity is must.