How to transform one's own personality (Especially from negative to positive)
For any transformation to be successful, it has to be deep and dramatic. Such deep process can bring about difference or newness in things. For example, to be able to access water from earth it is important to go deeper because the more shallow it is the more rocks and hurdles are experienced or seen.
Transformations are of 3 levels: Behavioral, Emotions, Attitudinal:
Its important to move from old to new. Change is inevitable and thus it should be welcomed with grace. Change is always possible when there is a necessary transformation of personality. That includes the process of thoughts attitudes relationships thoughts feelings and the entire life. An entire change such as this brings about a strong future, full of control and love.
Lack of familiarity:
Belief in what we see:
Immediate result orientation:
Keeping the focus of the environment:
Lacking intrinsic motivation:
Over emphasis on weaknesses and undermining strengths:
Guiding voice for change
There are three voices or inspiration for transformation. One time or the other we are touched by one of them and most times realize the importance of transformation. They are Self induced voice, Voice of the world and Inner voice.
In order to bring transformation within the self we need to know the intricacies of our own personality and layers within. And transformation always start within that is - Transformation in self. And from here, we can move on to Transformation in Relationships, situations, work etc.
For all these, we should be a learner. Learning depends upon four factors:
We also need to go in to the depth of other aspects of our Personality-The person will be preoccupied about people. High sensitivity and feelings of insecurity. Giving importance to trivial responses from others. stubborn in interaction and high expectations from others:
Thoughts- mostly questioning about others behavior and their weaknesses and ones own behavior towards others
Attitude - non acceptance of others in any other way then their own.
Words- spoken sometimes harshly and with disrespect towards others In the area of work is that of having clarity and focused at work.
When we have understood the different areas of transformation we need to have clarity about the areas in which we need to transform in the present position. There are four areas as already discussed:
And once we start our transformation process, we need to monitor the positive growth in all 4 areas of life. In work we need happiness and in situations we need power and in relations, love and in self peace.