We all should have trust and faith in our self that we can control some of the behavior that we have. We might have had a
broken upbringing. We might have had a
childhood that we rather want to forget. We all come from different backgrounds but we all have one thing in common, we have choices. If we have had a bad childhood then we do have the choice to make the future brighter. For some that might involve counseling and help. For some it just takes common sense when it comes to right and wrong. I use to think that I had the perfect childhood even though my
parents were divorced. When I got older I found things out that ruined my picture of what I thought were a perfect childhood. Some things made me sad and depressed but my mother also taught us that we always have a choice to make things better. Early on I made the decision that no matter what happens to me in my life, I would never take it out on someone else. I have met people that have been beaten as kids. Abused in several ways and they are broken down as persons. I also see a pattern in the way that they treat people around them, due to what happened to them as kids. I think that it is sad that the violator that hurt them not only hurt them but continues to hurt them throughout their entire life. A lot of things have happened to me during my childhood and when I was growing up but I will never give those people the satisfaction that those memories would ever haunt me ore make me the same kind of person as them. I refuse to be that way. Many people I have met say that they act that way because they were abused as kids themselves. Ore that they were teased as kids and that is why they tease other people now. I would like to give people the benefit of a doubt and I think that many people are smarter than that. When you abuse a young child ore when you tease a young kid, you destroy them for life. If you have had a broken childhood yourself and you feel that you have this behaviour, stop.Stop and think if it is worth destroying someone else’s life because your life once was destroyed. You will win over your perpetrator once you quit your own bad behavior. Once you stop that, that is when you are set free from your past. Kids can’t defend themselves and they are innocent, don’t ruin that. Let them grow up and let them enjoy their childhood. That is the right thing to do. No matter what happened to you once you were a kid yourself. You have the choice to not let certain things happen. You have the choice to make good things happen. You are smarter than the person that hurt you .Don’t let that person destroy your future. I was in a bad relationship for several years. He was an alcoholic. In the beginning I did not see that and when I did it was too late. He broke me down bit by bit until there was almost nothing left. He tried to convince me that I was not worth anything at all. He drank everyday and every day I had to fear what was going to happen.
There were some physical abused but most and worst was the mental abuse that he did to me. When he got mad under the influence of alcohol he would throw things around me. Making me afraid to move. He tried to convince me that no other man would ever look at me. I always remembered what it was like before I ever met him though. I turned heads whenever my friends and I were out. I knew that the only reason why he tried to convince me of that was because he did not want to loose me to someone else. His childhood was pretty bad .He grew up with both of his parents being alcoholics. He never got help whenever he needed it with his homework because they were drinking. The only memory he had of his parents were that they were drinking. I always felt sorry for him and felt that someone had to take care of him. It is so sad that he never got to know anything else when it came to his parents. He never learnt that he had a choice himself. A choice to go a different way. Both of his parents have passed away .I do wish at that time that I could have talked with both of them to let them know that they had destroyed another persons life. And by him becoming like his parents, he started to destroy people himself.
When you influence kids in a bad way ore you abuse them as kids you start a bad circle. A circle that goes round and round. We don’t have the right to destroy other people like that. We all have a choice. That choice is to change our future towards something better and treat other people with respect.Dont destroy young children’s right to form their life to something good. By stopping your bad behaviour, you win over the one that hurt you the most.