Why do menopausal women suddenly start looking matronly? Quite often women put on weight after menopause because they feel that it is the end of their attractiveness. They neglect their appearance and indulge themselves with food.A typical woman gains an average of almost 4.5 kgs before menopause at the age of 35 to 45, and only another 0.9 kg between 45 to 55.Here is where men com in. Make changes in both your food habits. Eat small frequent balanced meals together. Give up the daily post-dinner dessert habit, if you must have a sweet, make it a fruit for a single square of dark choclate. You don’t have to live on salads. Experiment, to create titillating lean cuisine lean meat and green veggies, sprouts and beans, wholegrains low fat dairy and fish, the market is flooded with easy-to-follow cookbooks.Recognise that neither one of you can indulge in fries and potato chips like twenty-year-olds.The good news is that these dietary changes also help protect a woman`s and your heart.Exercise regularly together, Start with yoga, swimming, walking after getting your doctors nod.All this tots up to better bodies, added stamina and more togetherness.