In this article written by Liudmila, the author continue reflect about the problem of disrespect and emotional mistreatment we suffer in family and at work.Here she trys to analyze the roots of this situation.As written in her previous posts,she thinks the great part of the problem is hidden inside us.We have to drug up our soul to understand why we feel mistreated.To do it, she uses the centuries-old buddhist technic to observe our mind.If we feel,we are or were mistreated,we have to post some questions to ourselfes.Once we come to the conclusion somebody was "bad" with us,we have to analyze this "bad" and understand: "bad" is not the word we hear or the person we see,"bad" is how we interpret what we hear and see.From other part, says the author,our soul,ego,our "I" looks always for opinion of other people about us.She says, it's similar that we have to look in the mirror to see our face.So we are like dependant from the opinion of others.Once we are not sure persons consider us as good,we are frightened of "bad" decision,we wait for "bad" reaction and accept it.And it provokes in most persons violent behaviour or discontent.The author gives some interesting exercises to come out from this dependance.She says these excercises can help even if you have emotional dipendance from your mother.They are good,according to her,to free ourselfes from every "familiar" person mistreat us without losing our love to him/her.Without self-trust is unpossible to change the situation.And in the article you can find tips and exercises to do to find again ourselfes and forces to stand all kicks the life reserve to everybody.The article you can find here: http://interestsgroup.blogspot.com/2006/12/emotional-mistreatment-bad.html .