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Website Review   by:may rona    
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Can you detect a man if he would turn out to be a violent wife beater? There is an increasing number of battered wives. The bad news is while it escalates in number many wives are totally helpless to get away from their beating husbands, thus they continue to suffer the severity of their situations. Come what may, they stick it out with their husbands hoping that some miracle would set in and change their husbands’ character. But hopefully, the miracle happens only when the wife could boldly take the guts and boldness to give halt to her husband’s madness. Most of the time, the brutal husband gradually succeeded in stripping off his wife’s self-esteem and confidence and that the battered wife became totally dependent on him. In this way, there develop a slim chance for the wife to run away from her husband. This situation would somehow be avoided had the wife been keen and aware of the impeding change in the atmosphere at home. Frankly, for a normal person you can’t detect a man if he has the tendency to become a wife beater. Man’s behavior is deceiving especially during the time of courtship. An experienced man knows very well the way to a woman’s heart. . Knowing your man better before taking a knot is practically logical than jump into marriage headlong. But anyway, no one knows if the planned marriage would turn to be sour or harmonious by the passing time. Somehow it all depends on the couple themselves for the success of their marriage. But there is an exception , in cases when a psychologically imbalance man would cross path with the innocent naive lady who’s only fault is to fall trapped into devious scheme of her seemingly persistent suitor. This type of man is so called psychiatric patient that could turn to be sadist. This kind of individual poses an impending danger to his future wife. The behavioral pattern of this man could easily be detected right even in the period of courtship prior to engagement. This man could have shown some tinge of possessiveness, violent tendencies like slapping his girl due to some feat of jealousy. In some instances, he would try to isolate his girl from her friends until she lose contact with them. He would show his dominant trait, he could strike his girl at the slightest mistake that she might commit. But he would easily bounce back for remorse and tries to pamper his girl with passionate sexual acts. His behavior is really unpredictable, he would be violent one time and be romantic at other times. This man would do everything to strip off her girl with all dignity and pride. He would insult her, belittle and worst trample her personality.
He would try to seclude her from the rest of her family. If you have this kind of boyfriend, get up yourself and run as fast as you can. This kind of man should undergo psychiatric treatment. You have no business considering this man as your husband to be. It just normal for a married couple to experience quarrels and misunderstanding but though how petty and heavy the trouble would be it should not resort to wife beating, and if physical abuses happens, remember that there is no longer normality in the situation. I have some advices to the wife. This piece of advice was counseled to me by my mom, and I found some practical truth in it. But first let me consider some factors that contribute to husband’s beating. 1. Vices – if the man has been into vices like gambling, womanizing alcohol and drug prior to getting married, chances are he wouldn’t stop even if he made a vow to forget his vices when he get married. It’s likely that he would become worse than before. When the burden of feeding his family becomes unbearable, he would turn to his vices even more. I say to the wife, never drastically force him to stop his vices in the midst or you might have gotten black and blue face. 2. Don’t be in a habit of constantly nagging your husband if you don’t want to be thrown outside the window. Nobody would want to listen to a loud broken record. 3. If in the feat of anger your husband happens to strike you. Give him a harsh warning if he does it the second time and you didn’t complain, he would finally make it a habit to physically abuse you. The second time should stay the last for you to consider it as enough is enough. Make a drastic move for him to amends or get away from him momentarily until he sought for your forgiveness. The soonest action you take, the better for your relationship. There are still a lot of woman out there who stay undecided, whether to stay or leave the home because of other reasons; children, work or financial support. For the most proper thing to do, consult the government agency there are laws that govern about battered wives.
Published: August 25, 2007   
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