The family institution is facing a critical challenge to its very existence, and so the question that first needs to be answered is: What is the purpose of the family?
It is often said that the family that prays together stays together. I remember clearly in my childhood days that at 7 pm, we had to stop whatever we were doing, have our bath and be ready for the family dinner at 8 pm.
During that time, discussions of current happenings took place. There was no television then, thank goodness. After dinner, we held the family prayers and then we did our own thing.
Nowadays the whole system has gone awry. Each person comes home at different times, fills the plate with food and sits in front of the television or go to their computers. Can we blame the society for what it is?
How can we change the family unit that has been fragmented? It appears that the old system is outdated and the new system is here to stay. The only possible way is to make time to interact with the family. Do you see that love has taken a negative twist and led to selfishness? We are watched by our children everyday. Our actions speak louder than our words.
There should be no excuse for not being with the family during the weekends. If we could not cut down on watching unending soap operas and horror films, it is possible to interact. All we need is a little discipline and commitment. We spend supper time together. Most of the time we sit at the table together. Once in a great while, we sit in the living room and watch a show together while eating. We spend most Sundays together. Having a teenager in the house, sometimes that doesn't happen, as we give in. We also take off and go camping most of the summer.
I believe that the family that prays together stays together. We do eat together on Sunday's and go to mass together. We try to have quality time together, dedicate time for our son, to play with his cousins, taking him to playing fields. We also try to watch some television together in the evenings and go for a half an hour walk, despite my son's complaining. We do to have difficulties in eating together since we have different times. My son always have lunch at my parent's house and most of the times my wife and I eat alone since we have different working hours. I think we are living in a fast society, though life is what we make it.
The family, designed to be the strong unit of a society has gradually been challenged and many families today are either broken or near to be broken. My family, for example had gone through a great intensity of shaking. The result is a broken family. I hope that I can have the courage, the strength, the will to bring my family together, in our family devotion time even just once a week. I am struggling big time on this but I know that it can be done.
Well in todays world family is about sacrafice I think. You have to sacrafice your time and things you want to do.....since there is so much to do out there now...with technology.....for your partner and your children. You have to set time aside, still find the time to talk and make lots of compromises to keep everyone happy and at a non stressed level.
I think the major things that help my family are planning and schedules, sacrafice and compromise and Sundays are our family day. We don't pray, we aren't church goers but we are a very happy family. It all seems to fit in place. We have made it together for 10 years now. So I must be doing something right